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I know that is Japan and all, but what makes a man (or woman for that matter) worth $1,000 - $5,000.....just for one night???

That even happens here - look at former Givernor Spitzer.

I think it's more that the women have the money to spend and feel generous

I mean, what car is really worth $100,000? Is it really THAT much better at being a car? But people spend that money because they have it

What people are willing to buy and sell is SCARY I'll say that...

I suppose it's all a matter of scale. Let's say it was $5 and you had a guy who sweet talked you, was nice to you, listened to you and danced with you all night long. That might seem sort of appealing

LOL...I would keep my $5,000 in my pocket and buy a $10 paperback love story from the bookstore first. LOL

Ah but say you could buy two guys at $5 each for that book

Oh a $5 guy? No way! LOL...if you're going to get an escort to open your car door, dance with you, show you the town etc, you might as well get a top of the line guy LOL...But the whole time I'd be thinking--he doesn't like ME, but my money even if it was only $5. That's why the money exchange thing bugs me. I feel that I shouldn't have to pay for anything.

Guess I'm old fashioned and a believer in "The Rules." I love that book.

I saw a special on this.. these male escorts are really just selling that feeling of appreciation the women don't get from their husbands. Sure- sex is involved but its more about feeling desired, appreciated, beautiful.

I can see it. We pay people all the time to pay attention to us. People get therapy and often it's so have someone to talk to, someone who listens and seems sympathetic/to care.

We pay people to touch us when we get massages, pedicures, facials and manicures. Even haircuts fall in this category. For some people this is all the touch they get at all.

We pay for fine restaurants to get good service along with the good food.

Sure, these are services, but so is a trained escort. This is someone whose entire JOB is to make sure you feel attended to, appreciated, attractive and admired. There won't be any fights. You don't have to deal with uncertainties. The men are most likely very attractive but also baggage-free (since you aren't DATING them).

But the escort isn't really appreciating the purchaser, he's appreciating the $$$$.

I'd rather go out by myself with my journal to keep me company, hang out with girlfriends or stay happily at home watching a Netflix movie.

Leah, that is GREAT that you have that self esteem. But for other people, it sounds like a lovely evening out. The massage people probably don't want to be massaging ME; but it is their job and i appreciate what they do.

I don't know if it depends on self-esteem. I tend to be wary of "strangers" as it is and with a paid stranger...there's no..what's the word I'm looking for--oh it's intimacy...And I don't mean sleeping together intimacy, I mean really knowing someone and genuinely wanting to make them happy that sort of intimacy. And I think we all can have this, yes it will cost us, but not in dollars and cents. It's just not something that can be bought.

I guess we will have to disagree here. I see it as a service, like any other. :-)

I think the massage analogy is a good one. I would much rather have my boyfriend give me a shoulder massage. But if he's busy, I don't mind paying a stranger to give me a shoulder massage, especially if my shoulders are really bothering me.

I guess I am repressed or something like that because I don't find anything sexy about man strippers. The lap dances are just icky. My mother in law asked for a stripper when she and her hubbie celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. (????) 'The girls' collected in one house. The guy just danced around for a while. Her daughter took him aside and asked him to go naked. So he took off his little underwear and danced around naked, his you know what flopping around. Honestly It was ridiculous. Then for the 'grand finale' he strattled her and rubbed himself all over her head/hair and up and down her arms. She thought this was just wonderful. I went outside to sit with the lesbians. For that this fellow made $150 fee plus enough tips to make $500. Honestly, I just don't get it. I can remember being much more turned on by watching a fellow climb an Oak tree with rope and saddle and walk out on the limbs to trim off dead pieces and then swing over to the other side of the tree to trim there. Then he rapelled down. Oh, my gosh!!! YUM

I have to admit that the idea of a man "sexy dancing" isn't high in my list. I am far more attracted to a man doing martial arts or swordfighting or something like that.

Hey! I am sooo with you on the swordfighting as an aphrodisiac! And rock climbing.

The Japanese women who hire male escorts do so for a few reasons:

1. Money assures the man's attentions.
2. The escorts play a very convincing role (adoring partner) for the evening, and although the women know it's an act, they enjoy the show.
3. Being the paying party gives them control of the evening and over the "relationship."
4. The arrangement is a guaranteed fun time. No lousy dates.

They have the money. Five grand is not a big deal to them. On top of this, they tip the escorts and/or pay for extra services.

There won't get this type of attention and service from the average Japanese male in their age group. It may seem silly and desperate, but to each her own. They want the male commpany. Like men who want pretty arm candy for the evening, these woman feel empowered and desireable with young escorts on their arms.

As for me, that whole male stripper thing is embarrassing. I wouldn't want him rubbing himself all over me. ick. But for some reason, watching a man work (and it doesn't really matter what he's doing) is appealing. Why is that?

I'll escort them for free. I would just do it to enjoy their company. I could use an evening of fun and maybe some romance. And I would be glad let the women take the lead. I will follow along.

"As for me, that whole male stripper thing is embarrassing. I wouldn't want him rubbing himself all over me. ick. But for some reason, watching a man work (and it doesn't really matter what he's doing) is appealing. Why is that?" I think it's because men are visual creatures, and women are more attracted to ideas/emotions. We like the idea of a guy who works hard and is dependable. I don't know a lot of women who honestly swoon over the figure of a naked man -- like how the majority of porn is made for men.

LOL. Now that's an idea. Why not start up a connection service? I'll bet there would be too many potential legal problems. LOL.

BTW, the Japanese nationals feel that you get what you pay for so don't cheapen yourself too much!

I can see where paying a fellow for attention and controlling that attention would appeal to the Japanese ladies. They have been pretty controlled in their society for a long time. So 'You go girls'. I can remember watching Errol Flynn in Robin Hood sword fighting with Basil Rathbone. I guess I'm dating myself, but I was about 10 or 11 years old and I think Errol was so sexy that he imprinted me for later men in my life. Does my hubbie sword fight? No, but he does have a moustache and he is very sexy.

As a male escort for women (in Melbourne Au) I have an opinion and ask you to see that many escorts are serving a solution to both parties. I love what I do. I love entertaining women and fulfilling desires. Women engage me and allow me to see intimate parts of their lives and bodies. They jump over barriers and expose themselves in a vulnerable way.. and this allows them to practice trust, build confidence and participate in sexual activities that they may well be deathly fearful of --- in normal situations. This is not a normal situation. Escorting for women is not like escorting for men. Whereas prostitution (female on male) is cold, and goal orientated, female on male is more intuitive and about exploration of the senses, opening the heart and learning to let go more.. this gives you an after effect (glow) that can promote confidence and creativity.

Hey you ladies should check out www.sevenforhire.com. Seriously!

Hey guys have been doing it forever, if the women is secure enough than so be it. Most of the time it's platonic, I should know. I cater to this type of business. Thesdcompanion.moogo.com :-p

I hope I can explain this in terms of understanding what I was trying to do,as a theory last Summer. I'd posed a question to all Males of the world,"What would you do,if you were given the chance to "Re-create"the world,with no chance of failure-what would you do? the responces Dissapointing to say the least.I never got one positive responce,but did,however find more than 27 ways to overcomplicate my question,and 15 ways to fail. I then felt that to make everything fair,I should come up with a situation to pose to every Woman of the World.I'll explain the whole ad that I put onto several Dating sites,in the next section butI wanted to seperate it out,so you could read it by itself,ok? and I have to go make supper,so I'll continue this in about 2 hours.you'll be surprised by what happened,see'ya.

Well..it took a while to refind the post page,..but here goes. Last summer I wanted to find out for myself,just where Women are really feeling,and how they view themeselves,(self-esteem-wise) as far as general views,towards being able to take care of her own needs while becoming a true "Tour De Force" in today's Business world.I placed an ad in several "singles"sites,offering a free afternoon of Pampering,to any Woman Strong enough to know that as a Busy-Modern Woman-she should be able to grasp that She's entitled to the same "PERKS" her male counterparts have enjoyed for years. I offered to come to where ever she was,and give her everything she wanted,..for free!..Backrubs,Footrubs,and all the Oral satisfaction,with no reciprocation,and all she had to do..was simply..lay back,and enjoy! I got over 350 responces from Women as far away as Australia! (I'm in Western Canada),and almost every one of the inquiries asked "What do you REALLY want? I tried to explain that I got more pleasure from "PLEASING A WOMAN",than from anything else. Almost every Woman I spoke to got REALLY ANGRY when I said that what I wanted to do...was simply please them!,and that Love is a gift!,and when I give LOVE,as a gift,I expect nothing in return. I wanted to explain to as many Women as I could,that Love is meant to be UPlifting,Freeing,and truly an opening of all of our minds! I was trying to pass on to everyone,something I'd discovered for myself while giving my gift of love to a Woman just days before. I explained that she wasn't to feel guilted into reciprocation, I then meditated to clear all of my own selfish thoughts and then focused totaly on pleasing her,it became such a Mind-Blowing experience for both of us,that I wanted to spread the word!! It was more of a Spiritual experience,and was so POWERFUL! that regular sex has no meaning to me anymore. It turns out that I'd stumbled onto "TANTRIC" sex,all on my own. The experience with the Singles ADS.was really Eye-Opening,and it took about 4 days to realize that to try to re-create that lovemaking session was only stroking my MALE EGO!,so I took down all of those ads,and told everyone I was moving to Tibet. It seemed that,to me,Women still are unfamilliar with the concept of being truly worthwhile Leaders in our Society,as a whole.