Welcome, Phyllis, NatAmEd. You bring up an excellent point - laughter. There is an old notion that laughter is disrespectful. When I officiate at funerals and wakes, I work to get the family talking and laughing. I can still see the face of one old Auntie that was so angry at people telling warm and funny stories, and at me for starting it. Sure enough, a story came up that involved her. Well, the old girl cracked, and a smile played at her lips. Then she got all flustered, which made people laugh even harder. Eventually, Auntie et al laughed til tears rolled down their cheeks. As Joni Mitchell sang, "Laughing and crying, you know it's the same release". And later I got a big hug from Auntie.
I try to live my life to give people plenty to laugh about. (which then freaks them out when they hear the topic i edit!)