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I am unable to estimate the mileage as I dont drive. I think that the answer will soon come. I have a 3 year old son with him and im not wanting to give up and i believe that families should stay together. 7 Years in september we have been together and had issues with him online dating for about 6. As a man do you think that it is possible for someone to wake up and change one day or is this something that will continue. Im at the point where I am ready to just deal with it as is until my son is older and out on his own.

I truly admire your commitment to your relationship and your child. But with a 3 year old son, thats 15 years. That's a long time to be with someone who (possibly) is cheating on you. And yes I think a man can change, if he feels that what he would be losing is more important than what he is gaining outside of the relationship. It's hard to deal with, but if this spirals out of control, its not fair for you or your son to be subjected to it for the next 15 years.

IMHO
Skeeter

The way I caught my ex, was the telephone.

I would re-dial the last number called as soon as I got home from work - and it was her number several times.

The final straw was when I came home from work early one day, and actually caught him on the phone with her (at least I didn't cathc them in flagrante!)

I think that most of the issues have arrised from my weight gain from having my son, he just turned 3 years old and I am still almost 15 pounds over what I was when we first started dating. I have recently started dieting and excercise, with hopes that my husband will find me attractive again and want to be intimate and want to go out and do fun things again

So I talked to my husband the other night. Probably due to the fact that we were both drinking, I told him everything. I told him that I was worried about him cheating ect. Anyway after a long discussion and talking things through I thought that everything was ok. Last night I initiated sex and all was good. After checking the history on the computer I see that he was looking to find women in the town that he works. It was like a slap in the face for opening up to him. Tonight i initiated sex and my response was that he was tired and not in the mood. Any advice on how to keep a man that is considering going elsewhere. I feel that If i do what he isnt getting that he will stay and not stray

Do you feel that you need to have more innovative sex?

Angelblueeyes,

I hate to say this, but there's nothing you can do to stop someone from cheating -- it's their decision. The question is not whether you're doing everything you can to keep him from cheating; rather, the question is -- is he the kind of man who would stay committed to his wife regardless of whether or not he's getting everything he wants and needs?

I'd try talking with him again if it's bothering you so much, though men tend to tire quickly of repeated heavy discussions.

Innovative sex is great -- variety is the spice of life -- but even if you were everything he ever wanted in bed, it's not enough to stop someone who wants to cheat.