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The support of your husband and others in your home is critical for breastfeeding success. How has your family been supportive or unsupportive? Do you have tips for others whose husbands are just not understanding how they can help or why this is important. I've been very lucky to have a husband who helped get through a rough time starting out and is proud of and grateful for my commitment. Check out my article on husbands, and share your thoughts and feedback

Husbands and Breastfeeding Article


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fortunatley my hubby is extremely supportive. at first, though, he thought i was crazy and didn't understand why i was so adamant about it, especially when it was so hard. that was kinda nice as it made me know that if i failed at it that it would be more than okay with him. but, since i wanted so badly for it to work, it was rough when he wasn't 100% behind it. But, it just took my devotion and my printing a list of all the health benefits to breastfeeding for him to change his mind. He read it and then said that he had no idea and that he was glad that i chose to bf and would do whatever he could to help - and he has. over time he has seen how much our dd loves to breastfeed, too, and i know this has helped him. plus, he gets out of being the go-to person for bedtime struggles - lol! i am so blessed to have him as my best friend and hubby!


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Originally Posted By: anythingforbaby
fortunatley my hubby is extremely supportive. at first, though, he thought i was crazy and didn't understand why i was so adamant about it, especially when it was so hard. that was kinda nice as it made me know that if i failed at it that it would be more than okay with him. but, since i wanted so badly for it to work, it was rough when he wasn't 100% behind it.


I went through the same thing with the tough start with daughter #1. I was never that nutty about breastfeeding until it looked like maybe I couldn't make it work -- then I dug in my heels. At one point, hubby said that while he was 100% wanting me to do it and supportive, he wondered if some of the benefits were being outweighed by the stress I was under trying to make it work. He hated seeing me so upset and how hard the baby was having to "work" at latching on and then taking the expressed milk in the bottle, and trying so hard so many times a day, etc. But in the end, we made it all work, and nursed until 18 months. Once you get into it, it's so easy to forget how awful it was at first.


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Personally, I do not understand any husband who is not supportive of his wife and breastfeeding.

I mean heck, if nothing else, it prevents him from getting up at 2am to feed the baby.

I was very supportive of my wife when it came to breastfeeding and even held a blanket up when I had to in public so she could feed our daughter.

I think breastfeeding is a beautiful and natural thing plus it is the healhiest for the baby.


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My husband is so supportive that he asks if i needed anything else and leaves the room. frown

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Originally Posted By: MoniB
My husband is so supportive that he asks if i needed anything else and leaves the room. frown


Moni,

Have you asked hubby what this is all about? He may think you want your privacy, or feel left out. Husbands feeling at breastfeeding can definitely be complex. If you let him know that you'd like him to stay and keep you company, maybe he would... perhaps he doesn't realize that nursing babies are not the best conversationalists!

Nicki :-)


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My Husband is very supportive and in fact if it wasn;t for him I probably would've had to quit. When I brought dd home from the hospital, she had trouble latching on and then my milk came in. My breasts got so full and hard that she couldn't latch on. The more I tried, the harder they got and painful too. After I burst into tears, my husband got down and sucked out the excess until they were soft again and dd could latch on.
Weeks later, when dd started to sleep longer at night, my breasts again got full and painful and I couldn't sleep. Sleep was very important to me and since I hate pumps, I woke up Dh and asked him to suck out the excess. He was overjoyed!
Later again DD began to develop a preference for one side and I stared to get lopsided. Hubby was very happy to help me balance up. So I owe my breastfeeding success and pleasure to him. Without him it would have been a painfull nightmare but with him it's been a pleasure.

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Vance, it's beautiful to hear how you helped and supported your wife with breastfeeding.

My husband has always been very supportive also. It makes things much easier.

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Originally Posted By: BrendaDD
My Husband is very supportive and in fact if it wasn;t for him I probably would've had to quit. When I brought dd home from the hospital, she had trouble latching on and then my milk came in. My breasts got so full and hard that she couldn't latch on. The more I tried, the harder they got and painful too. After I burst into tears, my husband got down and sucked out the excess until they were soft again and dd could latch on.
Weeks later, when dd started to sleep longer at night, my breasts again got full and painful and I couldn't sleep. Sleep was very important to me and since I hate pumps, I woke up Dh and asked him to suck out the excess. He was overjoyed!
Later again DD began to develop a preference for one side and I stared to get lopsided. Hubby was very happy to help me balance up. So I owe my breastfeeding success and pleasure to him. Without him it would have been a painfull nightmare but with him it's been a pleasure.



That is really gross what your husband did.

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Nin,

There is absolutely no academic value to the statement you made, it was purely judgemental.

Discussion, even if it is disagreement is encouraged here - but putdowns and insults are not.

If you have nothing of value to add to the conversation other than an insult, kindly keep your comments to yourself.

To everyone else: there is no reason to repond to either NIN's or my post here.


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Thanks Michelle,
When we married, I gave Dh rights to my body. When Dd was born I didn't take them away again.
With him working all day and me at home all day its easy to develop a separate lifestyle mentality and begin to pull away from each other but My hubby and I try to stay intimately involved with each other in everything we can. He gives me everything I need to the best of his ability and I give him whatever I can. We produced a beautiful daughter together and we raise her together and we enjoy the new benefits in everyway.

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I have the right to speak my mind.You have to realize that some people are going to disagree with you.

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Originally Posted By: BrendaDD
My Husband is very supportive and in fact if it wasn;t for him I probably would've had to quit. When I brought dd home from the hospital, she had trouble latching on and then my milk came in. My breasts got so full and hard that she couldn't latch on. The more I tried, the harder they got and painful too. After I burst into tears, my husband got down and sucked out the excess until they were soft again and dd could latch on.
Weeks later, when dd started to sleep longer at night, my breasts again got full and painful and I couldn't sleep. Sleep was very important to me and since I hate pumps, I woke up Dh and asked him to suck out the excess. He was overjoyed!
Later again DD began to develop a preference for one side and I stared to get lopsided. Hubby was very happy to help me balance up. So I owe my breastfeeding success and pleasure to him. Without him it would have been a painfull nightmare but with him it's been a pleasure.



I still find that very strange for husband to do that type of thing, while the woman is breastfeeding her baby. I never heard of a woman allowing her husband to do that. I even spoke to other people about this and they also think its very weird.

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Some people find this erotic, while others find the breasts too "functional" during nursing to see them as they did before pregnancy.

It truly is just a matter of preference between the couple - just as any sensual act would be.

I found when I was nursing it was much easier to start by hand expressing (basically massaging the breast) to get the painful engorgement down first, then I could use a pump, or the baby could latch on better. I would also lay a warm washcloth on my breast to help.


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Sorry, I didn't want to take up so much space on this discusion which is supposed to be about husband's support but equally don't want to leave people in the dark.
There are many websites out there dedicated to supporting couples who do not reserve breastmilk for baby only including snclist, a yahoo group with thousands of couples registered(and there is a Christian version) and "landmilkhoney.com" andBellaOnline ALERT: Raw URLs are not allowed in these forums for security reasons. Please use UBB code. If you don't know how to do UBB code just post here for help - we will help out!

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My husband is very supportive. He tries to make my life as easy as possible. I've been nursing non-stop for four years now, so he must be doing something right wink. He also changes 97% of the diapers while he's home, even though I'm a SAHM and he works 10+ hours a day b/c he says if I feed them, it's the least he can do.

On a side note, he doesn't suckle the milk from my breasts during sex, he says he's afraid he'll get shot/soaked, but I do slip him some (he says it's ok as long as he doesn't know ahead of time b/c he feels like he's taking away from the kids) if he's feeling a little on the yucky side (in his food or whatever) and we use it for homeopathic remedies.


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My husband is very supportive and, though he didn't start out "singing the praises" of breastfeeding, we are now expecting #3 and he has stood up for me through both my other two.

Postpartum he will get up, get the baby and hand it to me for nightfeeding.

When I got "in trouble" for nursing at church he called a special meeting and, when that failed, we left to find a new church. I was SO proud when we had our initial visit with the pastor of a prospective church and he brought up the fact that we planned to nurse our second child and would anyone have a problem with it? :-) I felt very respected and protected.

In my childbirth classes my husband has a little talk with the guys seperately about postpartum support and breastfeeding.

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Angela,

What a great idea for a section in a childbirth class! Good for you two!

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Well I show a very graphic ten minute video about breastfeeding - LOTS of different boobies and different latches/positions, etc. So to make things more comfortable for everyone, Sidney takes the Dads out for that ten minute time to talk a little bit from a Father's perspective. This last time was our first time to do it and it went REALLY well.

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Originally Posted By: BrendaDD
My Husband is very supportive and in fact if it wasn;t for him I probably would've had to quit. When I brought dd home from the hospital, she had trouble latching on and then my milk came in. My breasts got so full and hard that she couldn't latch on. The more I tried, the harder they got and painful too. After I burst into tears, my husband got down and sucked out the excess until they were soft again and dd could latch on.
Weeks later, when dd started to sleep longer at night, my breasts again got full and painful and I couldn't sleep. Sleep was very important to me and since I hate pumps, I woke up Dh and asked him to suck out the excess. He was overjoyed!
Later again DD began to develop a preference for one side and I stared to get lopsided. Hubby was very happy to help me balance up. So I owe my breastfeeding success and pleasure to him. Without him it would have been a painfull nightmare but with him it's been a pleasure.


That's amazing... I don't know if my husband would dare help in that way!

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I guess the main concern of my husband is that his wife and child remain healthy... breastfeeding has never been an issue, and when I even suggested that the baby might not sleep in our bed, he was shocked!

(of course the baby will sleep with us, until big enough to join big sister in "their" room)

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