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Greetings All!

Leah - the Wellness Editor here:). I've just moved into a new place and I'm really excited about getting it in feng shui order! With that in mind, I have a situation in my bedroom that I'm hoping someone has the answer to:).

My room is rather narrow and my bed can only go against a wall. I am single and not looking to stay single:) and would like to arrange my room so that the energy flow encourages a relationship to manifest.

Since I can only move my bed a tad bit off the wall but not enough for another person to enter from that side, I am wondering if there is a cure that can neutralize the negative effect of the bed being up against the wall on my relationship prospects.

Thanks sooo much in advance!

Green Blessings!

Thanks for asking, and... oh my, this is a challenge!

First of all, place a picture, painting, or poster on the wall side of the bed to extend the sense of space on that side.

Ordinarily, I'd suggest a mirror on that wall, but there are at least two reasons not to do this:

1. Mirrors reflecting the bed often look a little weird and lead to raised eyebrows; and,
2. You should never have a mirror in your bedroom where, upon sitting up, you could see yourself in the mirror. Otherwise, your sleep can be very restless and you won't wake refreshed.

You should, of course, move the bed away from the wall, even if it creates only a few inches of space.

Consider placing two candle holders on that wall... perhaps on a low, very thin, wall-mounted shelf. Fire in that area is a good idea, and the candles are a good symbol. Red or pink votive candles are excellent. If you can find some with hearts or other romantic symbols on them, that's even better. (Look in home decor areas of fabric stores and other shops. They may still have some seasonal candles and decorations from Valentine's Day, at very low prices.)

Everything in the room should be in twos... no "singles" of anything unless you can't avoid it.

Be sure to have two bed pillows on your bed. Also, keep clean sheets on the bed, as if you're expecting company.

And, activate the Romance Corner of the room. That's the back right corner of the room as you're looking in from the doorway, if you're using Black Hat Sect feng shui.

And, if you want to take preparations to an extreme, buy a set of pajamas for your future partner and put them in the top drawer of your bedroom dresser, if you have one. A spare toothbrush (kept in its packaging) is another nice indication to the Universe that you're expecting company.

Also, if your bed must be placed so that the foot of the bed is pointing directly at the bedroom door, be sure to use some kind of remedy at the foot of the bed... a folding screen, plants, or anything that will diffuse the flow of energy between the door and the bed.

I hope that this helps!

Hi Aisling! I just wanted to say thanks so much for your advice! I am taking your suggestions and getting my room in feng shui order:). I already can feel and see the effects! I will keep you posted on how things progress:). I do have one question though - do you have any suggestions around promoting stability and long term commitment? I tend to meet a lot of people but I don't seem to be able to get to that next level of commitment that easily. I so appreciate your help Aisling! Your site and forum are a wonderful resource! I love it!

Take care and happy fourth!

Leah

Hi, I'm sorry for the delay in replying. (I ignored carpal tunnel pain and it progressed over several months to "frozen shoulder." I'm still not online as much as I'd like, but I'm recovering in record time!)

Anyway...

To encourage longer-lasting relationships, make sure that you have nothing disposable in your bedroom. In other words, no boxes of facial tissue (or, even worse, no roll of toilet tissue for blowing your hayfever'd nose) and no cheapo plastic furniture that you think, "This is temporary until I can afford something better."

ANY aspect of your bedroom furnishings that makes you think, "I've got to fix/replace that one of these days," can be a problem. It's better to have just a few, high quality items rather than a completely furnished bedroom that features "dorm furnishings."

Next, check your bedroom closet and dresser. You should not be keeping anything there that's "temporary," either. Remove all old clothes that you think you might wear again, "someday." If you haven't worn it in a year, give it to charity or a friend who's coveted it.

Next, check the Feng Shui in your Romance corners (back right corner of your home, and the back right corner of every room). Each one should be tidy, display items ONLY it groups of two, and--where possible--feature the colors pink, red, and white.

Once you've got that handled, check your bathroom. If you have a series of lipsticks or nail polishes that are still good but you haven't used them in forever, donate them to a women's shelter or throw them out.

In fact, ANYthing in your bathroom that is a "serial use only" product--the lipliner you rely on when you can't find your favorite one, the eye shadow that's "if all else fails, this works," and so on. Have absolutely NOTHING in your bathroom that's simply a "backup" item.

Finally, clean out your kitchen cabinets. Check the dates on everything, and pitch out what's old, stale, or hasn't been used in at least three months.

If all else fails, quit using anything that's disposable AND makes you feel a bit lazy for using. For example, if you're using paper cups only because you hate washing glasses, go back to glasses. If you're using a throwaway floor cleaner because it's so much easier than hauling out the vacuum cleaner or a mop + bucket, go back to the old-fashioned version.

But, that's only if all else fails. I'm very aware of the importance of convenience products, and it's better to have a clean home using them, than a dusty/dirty home because you're too tired to use the old-fashioned versions.

The whole idea is to surround yourself with symbols of things that are sturdy, long-lasting, and as opulent as possible.

I hope this helps!

I heard recently that according to Feng Shui that one's bed should be located in direction north south meaning that when we sleep like this it's more healthy due to gravity.

Hi Leah

I was out of town for a few days without computer access. Thanks to Aisling for the many suggestions.

Please be careful about candles especially in a room where you have a lot of fabric like a bedroom. They make a realy romantic setting but the possibility of accidently falling asleep while they are burning is very serious.

Yes please move your bed away from the wall even if it is only a little bit. Make sure that you do not store anything beneath your bed. If you do not have room for a screen between the door and your bed( if it is directly in front of the door) you should keep the door closed when you sleep.

Set up your room as best you can to accomodate two people.
You want to have room for that special someone when he shows up.

Hi Fibi

Thank you for your question about the North South direction for beds.

Each of us has four beneficial directions that are based on our birth data. For you that may include a North South direction or it may not.

Also to be considered is the placement of the bed in the room in relation to doors, windows, and bathroom.

So in my opinion you can not say that north sout is good for everyone.