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Originally Posted By: Alexandra

The secret is to secure an inner joy for yourself so that whether you have a relationship or not, your happiness does not depend on the inclusion of Love from someone else.
To hang your hopes of some happiness on the presence of a significant other, is to set yourself up for a tumble, sooner or later. Whether self-inflicted, or brought about by 'Life' tripping you up.

This is the place I am trying to get to, but can't seem to reach. I feel somedays that relationships are just pointless and painful and as of lately I see no reason to have another love relationship...ever!

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Ask yourself whether the one relationship that you really need to cultivate, is healthy.

How much are you able to release the tension and love yourself, unconditionally?

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I know I cannot a healty relationship with someone else until I learn to love myself unconditonally. I have not learned that skill yet, I am trying.

Any advice?


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Oooooh, gracious!

Plenty, I guess, but I don't know that this is the right thread....! laugh

I normally live in the Buddhist forum, where perhaps the words I give may be more appropriate.
Let me very quickly add here that I would never presume to suggest an adherence or conversion to Buddhism is either necessary, or attempted here. Not a bit.
I would never insult your intelligence by trying to insinuate myself in that way.
I'm merely saying that I would be able to speak more freely and in an open and unhindered way about what I have discovered for myself, and communicate with you more suitably there.
before deciding on whether to visit the Buddhist forum for a more in-depth 'chat', have a look through the threads there.
Buddhists do not preach, proselytise or seek to convince or convert. It's not our bag, and is actually frowned upon within our 'community'. so please put aside any fears you may have of any attempt to 'bring you into OUR fold'. It's not going to happen.
if you'd like to continue this discussion, let me know. we'll chat there.

How's that?

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My mom is Buddhist, but I do not have much experience with it, but I am not closed off to it's teachings. I have posted in the Buddhist forum the same question.

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