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I wish men everywhere would sit up and listen !!

HUGE turn off - when men watch PORN and think that its real and try to pull the same stuff at home in bed.

When men admit that they have been to a prostitute in the past. FOR ME PERSONALLY, there is no coming back from this one.

I don't mind teaching men how to perform oral sex as long as they take it as seriously as they would have ME take giving them a blow job.

What are your turn offs??

mmm a man that is self centered in bed and care nothing for how his partner feels then expects to be praise for being a great lover!!!

or a man that wont tell me what he likes or doesnt like in bed. my husband was the worst he would not talk about anything like that but he learned to share.....

(big happy smile! :D)

A lier or a cheat, you can't trust eighter one

Liars and cheats! They are the worst.

Or when your man wont tell you that he likes or dislikes something. How are you going to know if they like or don't like something if they don't communicate?

Or a man who says he doesn't masturbate. If you cannot understand what makes you feel good how are you going to please someone else or be able to tell someone else what pleases you?

Good topic... could open a whole can of worms though LOL

Hmm, well when a woman assumes that just letting you have the chance to have intercourse while she just lies there is doing you a favour. Oh, and if she does try something else, it's so obvious she would rather be somewhere else ... sheesh.

My biggest turn-off is an Iffy Stiffy.

I've only witnessed this with two men (and one of them was over 50).

There's medication out there for that kind of thing! Go get some, Softy!

yes, non-reactive sexual activity is a turn-off. Makes you wonder if it is even worth the effort LOL

Or ugh, seeing me wiped out totally from everyday family stuff and as soon as I get everything/one settled in, wanting sex. Like RIGHT then. That drives me batty! Just let me be for a minute, you know??

Also, not being willing to try anything new. Whats the point??

Amelia

well how about the you should know what I like and I should not have to tell you additude? Gee if I was a sexual psychic I would not have got into bed this you dumb A$$! it is like I just magicaly know all the tricks to turning him on...What do I look like a Pro HOE? Talk you idoit!!!

lol I am so glad I am married now sex is much better when you have a man that you can trust and communicate with....when he finaly opens up!!!

can I get a Amen or something?

In my opinion, there are two kinds of men in the world, those who masturbate and those who lie.

I have heard alot of men talk about how their wives are completely uninterested in sex AND had some of the same women confirm that they don't care, its a chore etc. Frankly I don't get how you can claim to be heterosexual and be so turned off by your partner wanting to be with you. It just doesn't compute.

LOL!!! i think it has to do with women being programed from pre-teen years to think sex is evil and dirty and there are two kinds of women those who hate sex and whores

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I know in my case it stems from my Depression. When I am off my medication, I will bounce back and forth between periods when I am intersted and bile-black depressed days when sex is unthinkable (I was date-raped in my past). But when I am on medication, that impulse is so dulled, that I rarely think about it. If my husband initiates, I can become interested, but it does not generally leap to mind.

This is something I am really struggling with right now, because my husband is so patient, and I feel I am letting him down.

Depression will surely put a damper on things, even medication can take away the moment. before putting your partner down, take every thing into concentration now on the other hand it just may be THE TRILL IS GONE

Yes, I know what you mean about anti-depressants, they do certainly stunt the sexual drive. I have heard that Welbutrin isn't as bad as the others.

I guess I am different, even if I am depressed I still want to have sex, if I am stressed, thats a way to relieve the tension. I have to be pretty mad to NOT want to have sex.

For me its sort of like coming home and finding a gorgeous, gooey chocolate cake sitting on the table, totally unplanned, unannounced but there it is, I wasn't hungry when I walked through the door but now that its staring me in the face, I sure do want a HUGE slice of that gooey, sweet cake.

The lack of desire brought on by antidepressants created more problems, resulting in more stress, which in turn caused more depression. I tried zoloft, welbutrin, and lexapro. In the end, I chose not to take any due to the side-effects. Instead, I have been looking into more natural solutions. In truth, good, healthy sex can be an excellent antidepressant!

I use Lamictal and don't have any side effects in the sexual interest department. in fact, my shrink prescribed this so I wouldn't ;0)

I use to take paxil nd everytime I yawned I laughed for 2 hours!! I had a friend though that said everytime she yawned she had an orgaism!!! gee either I got cheeted or I was to dumb to know I was haveing an orgaism!!!

I heard that Amytriptaline was good for depression but it made you have an orgasm VERY easily. There was even an article on it in Readers Digest.
I'm sure my spelling is wrong on that one.

I took amitriptyline for a while (many years ago) and its cousin, nortriptyline. Neither one did anything for me. But they were actually prescribed for my migraines, not depression.

Really?
The article I read said that SOME women would have orgasms when they were having their hair combed out at the beauty salon, one woman reported having an orgasm while she was sitting in the board room. I remember thinking thats the kind of drug I need to try. I am sure like most side effects, its only some people.

I took it also and with the paxil and I stoped the paxil because of the laughing attacks....and the Amitriptyline did nothing but stop my migrains and make me sleepy right after I took it.... no sexual affects at all but then again I was not active then either....

I hate this, drives me bonkers. My bf is like that he expects me to do what they do & act the way they do. If I wanted to I would get into the business.

LOL!!! ROTFLMAO!!!!!! your a hoot!!!

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I hate this, drives me bonkers. My bf is like that he expects me to do what they do & act the way they do. If I wanted to I would get into the business. [/quote]

50 dollah make you holla! LOL

Hey as broke as I am $10 makes me go wild!!! :O)

I"M a baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD girl!!!

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What turns me off in the bed room
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LOL Rosie ;0)

LOL Rosy I could say the same about women.....

I think most men think that because the women in porn look happy and ah well pleased that they can do the same thing to any girl and be hero. they dont seem to understand that in porn they do whatever is camara friendly it doesnt matter what it feels like just that it looks good! but by thinking oh well debbie seemed to like it on the tape every woman on earth will love it also....thats what makes me mad! Hello sex is not a ones thing fits all!!! thats why there is some many.....never mind!

I have a couple books on sex, I have been known to trot these out to point out the reality.

Frankly, once a man has fallen for the fiction of porn, they are almost beyond help.

I also find men who are the male version of whores really distasteful. I don't even bother with them because where making love is concerned, we are speaking a completely different language, he is shaking hands, I am giving a part of my heart, NOT THE SAME THING.

In my last relationship, my partner, ever since she had a child , found it difficult to have an orgasm from penetration. But her sex drive was incredible and sex was always great. We gave and we took. I particularly enjoyed giving oral sex because it immediately worked. Her enjoyment was unmatched and that is why I loved it .....it turned me on also. What is the point in being intimate if one does not please the other?

I think most men think if a women doesnot have an orgaism by penatration that it is not a real orgaism! or if the women orgaisms one time that they have pleased her good enough and well for some women one is just the cone and we would love the icecream at lest and maybe some chocolic syrup and if they are very nice maybe some whip cream and a cherry on top..... I hate the cone.....

Great analogy freebubbles. And funny too !

It's a little hard (pardon the pun) as a guy to receive more than the cone (another funny term) at any one time. But I know what you are saying as a woman on the receiving end. I am envious of the woman's capabilities !!

LOL I ment I hate just the cone....not the ah Cone its self....lol *blushing*

I didnt realy realize who that read until I just reread it....but you are right!

I am more creative then I thought!

agreed bubbles

i don't like ear kissing. i've only liked it from one person but usually it turns me off. lol sorry to be so g-rated lol.

LOL!!! well g rated is better the hard core XXX-rated!

lol.. i know.. i could have so gone into the naughty details of what I don't like... and I have seen a lot! Wait, I just made myself sound like some two dollar whore LOL

Wait! That's Misstress Jase to you ;0)

ok Misstress Jase! Is your mind as sick as you advar looks?

lol just jokeing!!!

poor little advar gots a tempature!!!!

Oh that avatar was because I caught food poisoning this past sunday, spent monday in emergency and three days off work. Just went back yesterday and am slowly returning to normal. The puffiness and bloating, irritation, and other things are still here and can be for weeks.

I like your new one though its how I feel somedays!!! lol

I love finding quarky things on photobucket. Some I cannot use here because they'd be deemed "inappropriate" LOL

I found a pic on photo bucket and i though OMG can they show that anywhere at all legaly? but I guess anything goes now a days!!!

it was so graphic that I cant even desribe it here with out the post getting banned!! WOW it never fails as soon as I think I have seen everything I find something more shocking to see!! this one I wished i had missed!!!