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When i was with my childrens father, a look ,a touch would end up in sex nothing but sex
When i was with my girlfriend a look, a touch, would end in a hug, cuddling, hand holding and then sex if we both wanted it. and if one of us didn't want to, than a hug or cuddling would so comforting to both of us.


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We watched a sad movie last night, and this whole Heath Ledger thing had me feeling so much empathy for Michelle - I just felt so lucky to have my hubby, and for some reason I just really needed to hold hands last night. That's all - but just holding hands felt so sweet and intimate in the moment. Sometimes it's those little things that are important.


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I miss those little monments where you talk all night and cuddle hold hands or whatever... to me they are just as important as the sex if not more! sex to me is not as intimate as hugs kisses cuddles and just being together. it is hard for my husband to understand that i think. Sometimes life gets in the way and he thinks just because i cuddle up to him i want sex and when i dont he feels put down like he did something wrong or something and it becomes a big battle.... or i give in and he roles over and goes to sleep and i am like WTF??

I know he thinks sex=intimates, love romance but a role in the bed just dont cut it all the time.... you know? I thought when he was put on high blood pressure meds and was having trouible...that that would be great for me because then he would cuddle more with me and stuff but no. it seems like the only time to touch me is for sex. no sex no touch, cuddles,hugs, kisses no nothing!!!! It caused major problems because i was like he dont love me and he was like Im a failure... so he got those pills from the dr and we are back to square one! great.

I think after I told him that I wanted the kissing and hugs and all and when i didnt get the hugs and kisses and all I dont want sex at all that helped a lot and things are much better!!!

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I'd like to add, if your guy has trouble with Viagra, then try Cialis or one of the other longer lasting drugs. With the Viagra, it was do it now or forget it. And life CAN interrupt. I've GOT to say, these drugs may have saved my marriage. I really thought he didn't love me anymore and all the time he just couldn't tell me he had a physical problem. Unfortunately, his insurance company labels the drug, even with a doctor's letter, for recreational use only. So we pay $15 a pop. WOW! Sorry didn't mean to sound like an advertisement. But that stuff is awesome.

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When I was younger, in my 20's, sex was the most important thing. Now that I am older, in my 40's, it is important but if something happened to my husband and we could never have sex again, I would still love him and stay with him. I defintely love sex, who doesn't, but the intimacy is just as good. As most posts stated, holding hands, hugging, a look, doing special things for one another, WOW.

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I think sex is very important. It's the one thing my S.O. indulge in that doesn't involve anyone else. We can escape from the stress of daily life and have fun in bed. We're currently going through a real dry spell, however. We've been together long enough now that we can talk about it. I've been battling weight gain and I don't feel attractive. That is the biggest libido killer for me. I want to feel sexy and feeling sexy means more sex.


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I think more than sex, intimacy is a very important part of a marriage. I could get sex anytime... It's the cuddling and romance and such that steady relationship offers that I enjoy the most.


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I'm not a cuddly person, really. I do like a back rub, or a hug and a kiss. But if we're watching tv, I like sitting in a chair by myself. He and I are pretty well matched that way.


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Emotional and physical intimacy is very important to a marriage. In my case intimacy with my wife has occurred less than annually over the last five plus years. It has currently been at least 14 months since we were last physically intimate. So, It was 10 to 15 minutes of passion in over a year. Why is this important? Since my wife has demonstrated a near complete lack of interest in physical and emotional intimacy it makes it very difficult to care for about things that she believes are important. It is harder to listen to what she has to say and been concerned with what she is telling me. I have had many thoughts of frustation and anger at repeatedly being rejected. The lack of intimacy is damaging my ablity to care and love my wife because I feel constantly rejected and ignored romantically. Emotional and physical intimacy and romance is a vital aspect of a stable and enduring marital relationship. Without it a marrige risks becoming unhappy and falling apart.

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Intimacy in a marriage is very important. Regardless of what some people want to believe, a marriage without sex is painful emotionally.

The frequency of sexual activity varies from couple to couple, but most agree that they need and want sex frequently.We are after all, sexual beings.

How long are you married and has this situation been a pattern from the very beginning? If not, what happened to change it?


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