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"Our fears are more numerous that our dangers and we suffer more in our imagination than reality." (Seneca)

Isn't it amazing how many bad things do NOT happen to us? And do we recognize the good things that happen as gifts? I pledge today to do all I can to live in the now and remind myself that any fear is a lack of faith in my Higher Power.

I am horrible for always thinking the worse, i bring daily extra stress onto myself, thinking this or that happened, i have people dead and buried. i even went to the police station because i hadn't heard from my daughter, telling them her body was in the trunk of her car, somewhere, because her car was spotted, because of her life style i went to such extreams, my mind goes into over drive always thinking really outrages thoughts. i am very optimistic. and can not stop my way of thinking. and can't even think of trying.many psychiatrist have tryed to help. and for me the worse is yet to happen ;o(

Rosie, there is so much I could say to you that I think would be helpful to you but there isn't enough room in this forum to do so. I can only say that you are wasting such precious time on worrying and feeling stressed when you could open your mind to the beauty of life. I had to learn these lessons and you do not have to be in a recovery program to learn. My husband is "addicted" to worry. He is not happy unless he can worry about something. He thinks that is how he shows he cares about someone. I would love if you would email me on this site so I could write more but the bottom line is you can complain about worrying and stressing out but you get something out of it. You get some type of "reward" for lack of a better word. You can say you don't, but you do. Maybe I will write an article soon about this whole worry/stress issue. I do appreciate your thoughts and please know that it doesn't have to be that way and although I have a respect for psychiatrists, there is less expensive therapy out there!

Kathy