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I have just recently learned about the secret and have started trying to implement it in my life. My biggest difficulty has been my job. I currently work an assembly-type job, on my own, eight hours a day. With all that free time on my own, I inevitably succumb to that sinking doubt: "How is it going to happen?" "Is it really possible?"
Years and years of self-doubt is challenging to overcome, I know, but forty hours a week of this type of thinking will naturally prevent manifestation of my dreams!!!
I was hoping that maybe I could get some hints and tips from people who are using the secret in their own lives - a different perspective would be very helpful indeed!
Thank you

If you cannot find happiness, serenity, joy and contentment where you are right now - then where else do you expect to find it?

That is what we are searching for.

But you will never find it if you look anywhere else. it is not some goal, something tangible or obtainable "at some point in the future"> THis is not some life objective you have to wait for.
This is what I am trying to explain.

A mother who has got her child kidnapped will never find any peace till she finds her child.

but this is not what we are talking about, is it? Why do you add something outside of the current discussion?

I do not think I will be able to do meaningful talk with you Mettamaid. I will continue talking with the original poster.

Ok. Nice to see you anyway....

This assembly job gives you lot of time to think?
Is it such that you work like a machine without much thinking?

Oh. I see you have changed your post and changed your mind.
You are a very odd woman.
I do not underastand your reluctance to discuss.

I can truly understand your position. There are two ways - first, ask the universe to make you aware when you travel into negative thoughts because awareness is the first step. You consciously think positive and then your old negative thoughts hit the ball back
Have you wondered how to bring the Secret Law of Attraction into your life?
Basically you need a visualization form of Law of attraction, so I will recommend you a great audio series of Law of attraction called optimindzation created by Stephen Pierce a big internet marketer. This is an audio series that you listen to that sends messages to the mind through a type of meditation to give you energy or relax you depending on the one you listen to. It helps you to visualize and become creative so you can use the law of attraction in your favour.
You seem to have found parts of the puzzle on how the �Law of Attraction� as outlines in the movie �The Secret� interact with each other.
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Adam111, you should read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. this and other books by him would give you an idea of how to be in the NOW, which is all we really have.

I also try and implement the Law of Attraction in my life but it's a matter of knowing what your priorities are. If your priority is being happy, you can be happy wherever you are, whatever you are doing because it comes from inside. If it's something outside yourself that you want, you need to know WHY you want it and focus on the end result.

If you hate your job, you should find another because this will stiffle your spirit to work and work at a job you hate. Perhaps it's more yourself that is the block than the job, tho. YOu must find happiness within yourself that is independent of any outside source.

If you want another job, focus on the idea that a way will come for you to have another job and be open to ideas that come to you about that. the more you focus on your current unhappiness and doubt, the more it will paralyze you.

I completely agree with this. i read the book in Italian a year ago, and it's advice can help anyone transform their lives.
Incredible.
Have you read it, CDMohatta? It is very powerful.

There is a very informative and inspirational interview with one of The Secret teachers Lisa Nichols at SavvyMiss.com. Check it out in case you haven't yet here:

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Mettamaid, have you also read A New Earth by Tolle? I am listening to the audio book right now and it's wonderful as well!

i agree, it could change your life.

The Lisa Nichols interview was very good. Thanks for posting it.

I guess as I get more into the spiritual side of myself, I am having a little trouble with some of the Law of attraction material. It is focusing on a goal and trying to make the goal be NOW and experiencing it in the present so it will have to manifest.

Tolle says we should be in the now, which is not to think people, events, situations as good or bad. It just IS. (Like Buddhism teaches?) To me, focusing on a goal (usually a material thing like a new job or whatever) is not focusing on what is good about this moment right now. It is focusing one what we want which keeps us from fully living in the current moment and experiencing it.

I think some people have taken the LOA stuff as being meant to get us wealth or better jobs or good relationships but it all begins inside in this moment.

Maybe I'm not explaining it very well. Has anyone seen the Peaceful Warrior? I just saw it this past weekend and it is a great story about the power of now.

Thank you Joan. yes, it is as you say. The message from Mr. Tolle is exactly that in Buddhism.
And I think you are right about your assessment of the LOA that some people think it is an easy passageway to financial wealth and get rich quickly, because with riches you will be happy. I think either the message is not being given across very effectively, or people are looking for a quick fix (I think the term is) because they want it all, and they want it now. Of course, the authors of this book are reaping the rewards of a message which is ancient, but is couched in undersatndable easy attractive terms.
But if people think that this is all there is to Buddhism, they are mistaken.
Following a Buddhist path is a daily challenge to the Mind and the senses. Every day you have to watch, be in the moment, be mindful and skillful in your thoughts words and deeds, and be present at all times. It is not being Buddhist that counts. It is living Buddhism that counts.
Then, you can start on the other stuff - !!

I will look up the other book you mention by Herr Tolle. Thank you for your interesting post.

does that work?

I think that we can take or get advice and tips from anywhere but, we can't have our hands held. We cannot be told how to walk our own path. We must do it alone. No two paths are the same. No two secrets are identical.

Okay are we talking about the secret of happiness and fulfilment in life here?
Ask yourself: Are you happy doing what you are doing day in and day out? If not, change it.
Think of ways of doing RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS from your heart, that you mean to do it and feel the difference of self worth it will make in your life.
Sometimes when we have too much time to focus on ourselves we become so narrow minded we don't realise we are blocking out all the awesome things beyond our box and its hard to see until someone points it out to you.
Each one of us is very special and we all bring something to this world that can be shared. All the best on this journey.

The Secret book is on the Law of Attraction.

It was never a secret. It has been marketed very good though.

Read any business book, or how millionaires think and you'll find the Law of Attraction thinking

An even older book teaches the lessons of the Secret, and it' a bigger best seller then the secret. The original book has been a best seller every year - the Bible.

The law of attraction. Ask, Expect and Receive. Know what you want, and treat those around you the way you want to be treated.

The lessons from the book are important in that it does teach positive living and staying focused on what you want.

Beautiful!

It is a little scarey to me when people only become interested in living 'well,' when they think it means material abundance/overindulgence. On the other hand, whether it is Buddism, or following the teachings of the Bible; if 'a secret' is what it takes to get people here, it may not be all sad. It may stick to some.

I think if you study the Law of Attraction and practice it, eventually you will come to the idea that it has nothing to do with material things and monetary wealth. It can be a spiritual path that transcends just materially living "well".

Once you start on the path, and get used to asking for inner guidance about your life, it naturally leads you toward goodness. By following this inner guidance, sometimes you end up someplace you never thought you would be-but you will be happier than you ever thought you could be also.

I have read several books on the law of attraction and all of them say to find your passion and follow that-not thinking about monetary gain. I think if people did not have to worry about money or failure, they would be doing many things that would benefit others.

Having this mindset of attracting helpful people and good things in your life brings you friends and fullfillment in life.

Stacy.

I agree Stacy. I've been implementing the Law of attraction in my life and it has become more of a spiritual path for me as well.

I have always lived that way to a degree (in some form or other.) It is a spiritual path. To hear that this is what makes millionaires, confuses me. How can you keep being driven by the desire to take? Spirituality is selfless and giving.

"By following this inner guidance, sometimes you end up someplace you never thought you would be-but you will be happier than you ever thought you could be also." - I Know, Stacy-Green. The best things in my life have come this way.

Books that have this lesson:

"Think and Grow Rich" By Napolean Hill
"The Millionaire Mind" by -- can't remember off the top of my head.

It's all about visualizing what you want in life, what lifestyle you want, and giving back.

Does the 'be careful what you wish for,' adage apply here?

Well, I suppose if you are blissfully happy with all your material possessions, you may never care.

Also, isn't it polite to ask the universe if what you you want is healthy and OK for it to give. (like a demanding kid) Does the universe look after it's own interests or is that our responsibilty?

One thing I always attach to anything I might want to see happen is that it be a good thing for all concerned. Perhaps there is a better plan out there that I can't see yet. Mostly I ask for direction so that my life will be on a good path. As the Bible says "Lead me in the way I should go." Sometimes that is the best thing to ask for.

Besides, you can't ask for things that would bring harm to others without bringing it back to yourself.

Well, you kind of can. Look at oil tycoons, or corporate
heads of industries that are stinking up our planet. They are the main cause of global warming, and are blaming society first, and running with their pockets full. Maybe when the backlash happens, if you've got lots of employees to duck behind you can get along fine.

I suppose it always comes down to how deeply you are currently allowing your conscience to accept blame.

But, the question remains, if this is only for the betterment of mankind, how come you can become a millionaire selling products from our streached natural resources, for our streached mental resources, that we already have too many of? I'm thinking black magic works along the same principles.

I know there are lots of "bad" people in the world who do seem to get what they want. Money attracts money, etc. It's kind of the same discussion as to "why does God let bad things happen" or why do people make money from pornography-that's obviously a "bad" thing.

I believe that part of consciously practicing the Law of Attraction is to use it for the betterment of ourselves and mankind. However, there are other ways to get what you want too-just by forging ahead and letting nothing stop you, regardless of who you hurt or what the bad effects might be. I do believe that in some way tho, people have to pay for doing things that way.

We can't affect how others do things but we do have control of how we do things and each person has to choose the path they want to take. For instance, if tycoons are making money ruining our planet, I believe that there are also good people out there using their skills and intellect to dream up "green" and eco-friendly solutions. They will at some point be making money too- but with a clear conscience.

So if someone wants to be a millionaire, obviously they can choose to do it in a way that either harms or benefits others. I just believe the path is clearer and more joyful for those who are also trying to benefit others as well as themselves.

I would think the path was more clear to the selfish.

In your journey, do you ever run in a brick wall? I find that when I am getting somewhere. Breaking new ground, so to speak. I get thrown out of 'Eden.' I am begining to wonder if it a growth thing. I wind up with my life taking a 180 twist, so that I can't even relate to the person that I was.

I just went through this type of experience, again. This time it lasted several months before I was able to reconnect, and think with the same view, that I had been.

PS. It says in the bible that we are all given the same, it is what we do with what we have that counts. I think the 'secret' is simply the life tools we are given, and that we tend to mangle them so badly that we forget about them, or how to operate.

Wayne Dyer "The Power Of Intention" contends that only our positive energy, can function after death. And that the highest level of positive energy is god. He says, if life is infinite, than this is not life. Dr. Hawkins, Power vs Force, research states, optimism from one persons energy, counters 90,000 negative people. And, there are 22 sages in the world who live and vibrate in peace and bliss. Their energy balances 10 million people who bring low and negative vibes into the world.

But, remember the tower of Babel. These people thought they had life's mysteries figured out. They had skills and knew how to use them. So, some say did the people of Atlantis.

Everybody runs into brick walls sometimes. I think that is the time to step back and regroup and begin again.

We can't keep doing the same thing we are doing, over and over. I think that is where the brick walls come from. Sometimes we have to head off in a new direction.

Thanks Stacy, sorry to ramble so far off track. I read a book recently called The Key by Joe Vitale, a 'Secret' contributor. He says that when your attractor doesn't work for you, it is because your conscious and subconscious aren't on the same page. Or, believe different things. And we need to clear out old possibly buried beliefs to be clear. (and attractive!)

Moms-so glad you're reading Wayne Dyer! He's terrific and one of my favorite authors.

It's hard to get rid of "old" stuff that we might not even know we're carrying around. One way I've done it is to focus on each present moment and not let past beliefs, feelings and ideas intrude. I read in one book that if you remember to focus on positive feelings in each present moment, you are creating those same feelings for the future.

I think many of us can focus on each present moment if we try. It's carrying the weight of the past around-or even the future-that is too much for us to handle. As Wayne Dyers often says, we can't change the past and the future isn't here yet, so this moment is all we really have.

He also says that ego causes a lot of our problems. I think that has been what I have been wrestling with. It hit me last night! It was a strange realization for me, as I try to live with humility. I thought I had grown past the point where ego could affect me like that. I guess not!

And, strange that you should bring it up, but the reasons have to do with past and future. I guess I have a live in the present, lesson to learn here.

Thank you so much for sticking with me. I guess you found me attractive, is some warped way!

Hi Moms, sorry I haven't been back here recently. WE had lots of company for Thanksgiving.

I definitely think the key to being happier in life is to live in the moment and ALWAYS look for the good to be found there. Two people can have the same thing happen to them but the positive person will try and find some good in it or an opportunity or lesson and the negative person will just think the Universe hates them or something and nothing good ever happens to them.

If you try and be positive and joyful in every present moment, you are creating more of that for the future.

I used to be a more negative person and that only attracts more negativity into your life. Since I;ve really been focusing on being happy in the moment, the burdens I was carrying around by worrying about the past and future disappeared. I also learned to forgive by realizing that each day is a new start and the past doesn't matter. My relationships with those I felt "wronged" me changed completely.

It's like a circle. I have been down this path a lot of times. Each time I have deeper more complicated learning, about present joy.

Last week we went to the Santa Claus parade. We waited for 20 minutes in the freezing cold till the parade started.

A couple with 2 children came along and stood beside us. They were there 5 minutes befor it started. We spoke, they were NICE.

The parade started. That family stepped right in front of us. My youngest couldn't see. That family got all the candy, my kids got none.

The wife didn't seem to care. THe husband, kept turning around, looking guilty. I couldn't keep kindness. I was hurt and angered.

I don't believe their act was intentional. I think it just happened. But, they didn't try to correct it.

Is it my fault I wouldn't be forgiving and say, oh well, no big thing. I don't think that was the answer. I think I needed to say, could you kindly GET OVER. But, that wasn't an option. The crowd squeezed in, there was no 'over.' My kids are too polite to muscle in.

Anyway, I have been doing a lot of Christmas kinship pondering.

Hello!

I am new to this board, but I have enjoyed reading about your journey's with The Secret.

I discovered the Secret and The Law of Attraction earlier this year. In my opinion, it is amazing! I work from home so I can be with my 2 daughters, and since I learned of the great secret, I have had so many wonderful women come into my life!

I do admit there are some times when I doubted the secret and implemtnting it into my personl life, but then I look back at myself and where I was in the begining of the year vs. where I am now, and I am astounded by the difference!

I hope that you will continue to utilize the tools you have at your finger tips and implementing this into your lives! Another auther I enjoy is Zig Zigler.

I look forward to hearing from you all on how your journey is progressing!

I've found too that sometimes I feel I'm not progressing. Then I sit down and take stock of what's happened in my life lately and sometimes I'm amazed to see things HAVE been working and I just didn't see it at that moment because it came in a way I didn't expect.

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