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Re: Do pals only contact you to brag about their kids? [Re: nosy] #301033
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I'm a CF school teacher who went to an Ivy League college, and I feel an excellent role model for the girls and boys I teach. The important thing is to let children know they have choices, and that they don't have to go along with the crowd just because it's what they're "supposed" to do. They need to be empowered to make the choices that are right for them (traditional or not), and respected, not questioned, for the decisions that affect only themselves. It's what we who are on this board want as well - just that we be respected for the choices which are our right to make.

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Re: Do pals only contact you to brag about their kids? [Re: iluvsummer] #301165
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Originally Posted By: iluvsummer
The important thing is to let children know they have choices, and that they don't have to go along with the crowd just because it's what they're "supposed" to do. They need to be empowered to make the choices that are right for them (traditional or not), and respected, not questioned, for the decisions that affect only themselves.

Well said iluvsummer!
I wish everyone could feel that empowered and make only the choices that are right for them, and not succumb to peer pressure to be the "norm".
There is a lot of talk about peer pressure in high school: to drink, have sex, smoke, do drugs etc.
There is not as much awareness that peer pressure continues into adulthood: get married, have kids, make lots of money, buy a house, pay for your kids' college education, give up your life for your kids etc... Really, does it ever stop? Everyone is different - can't we realize that we should just let everyone decide what's right for them???

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Re: Do pals only contact you to brag about their kids? [Re: jmb] #301616
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Thanks, jmb! You have an excellent point too about peer pressure continuing into adulthood, just with different pressures. I never thought of it that way - just thought of it as society's expectations - but it really is a very sophisticated and very pervasive form of peer pressure.

Re: Do pals only contact you to brag about their k [Re: M.B.] #301622
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PMO, how nice of you. Snooks, I'm glad you stuck to your point with your friend. PMO may I suggest to you that I did believe that Snooks and I ended on a note of we're on different pages, and I don't believe CF and mother's will be on the same page, but I do believe they can still be friends and it's sad when friendships end because of it. And Snooks made a valid point about enlightenment. And just an FYI PMO, cloth diapers except at bed time.

Re: Do pals only contact you to brag about their kids? [Re: iluvsummer] #301646
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Originally Posted By: iluvsummer
Thanks, jmb! You have an excellent point too about peer pressure continuing into adulthood, just with different pressures. I never thought of it that way - just thought of it as society's expectations - but it really is a very sophisticated and very pervasive form of peer pressure.


Yes, but! As adults (and even older kids), we develop something that psychologists like to call "ego defenses". These allow us to say "#@$% 'em. I've thought it through, and I'm going to do what I've decided is right for me, even if it's not popular".

What's odd is that some of the people we might think of as the most egotistical ("me, me, me, bling, bling, bling!") actually have very poor ego defenses. If the Queen Bee in their little myopic social group told them to jump off a bridge...they just might.

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