logo

Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 1 of 4 1 2 3 4
Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283531
12/05/06 09:42 PM
12/05/06 09:42 PM
Joined: Aug 2004
Posts: 1,079
SPAM-A-LOT
kristen houghton Offline OP
Parakeet
kristen houghton  Offline OP
Parakeet

Joined: Aug 2004
Posts: 1,079
SPAM-A-LOT
Is it possible for a man and a woman to just be friends without feeling sexually attracted to each other? In the movie, "When Harry Met Sally" the answer was no.
What do you think and why?


"Allow your dreams to become your plans."

Kristen

Kristen Houghton
Author and Relationship Writer
BellaOnline ALERT: Raw URLs are not allowed in these forums for security reasons. Please use UBB code. If you don't know how to do UBB code just post here for help - we will help out!
Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283532
12/06/06 12:04 AM
12/06/06 12:04 AM
Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 622
Canada
L
lala21 Offline
Gecko
lala21  Offline
Gecko
L

Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 622
Canada
Well, I have male friends. I am not attracted to them, and as far as I know they are not attracted to me. Of course it's possible for a male and female to be friends without being sexually attracted to eachother. Just because your friend is of the opposite sex does not mean that there has to be sexual attraction involved. Although, in some cases one could be attracted to the other, and the other not. It depends on who it is.

Do you have male friends you are not attracted to?

Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283533
12/06/06 02:18 AM
12/06/06 02:18 AM
Joined: Aug 2004
Posts: 1,079
SPAM-A-LOT
kristen houghton Offline OP
Parakeet
kristen houghton  Offline OP
Parakeet

Joined: Aug 2004
Posts: 1,079
SPAM-A-LOT
I do have male friends and I consider them like brothers.


"Allow your dreams to become your plans."

Kristen

Kristen Houghton
Author and Relationship Writer
BellaOnline ALERT: Raw URLs are not allowed in these forums for security reasons. Please use UBB code. If you don't know how to do UBB code just post here for help - we will help out!
Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283534
12/06/06 12:43 PM
12/06/06 12:43 PM
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 5,004
India
Modern Woman Offline
Wolf
Modern Woman  Offline
Wolf

Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 5,004
India
I believe that this is difficult. I have seen many cases. But they should look good, because lust is fanned by beauty.

Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283535
12/07/06 02:36 PM
12/07/06 02:36 PM
Joined: Jun 2006
Posts: 115
Ireland
M
MissCharlotte Offline
Jellyfish
MissCharlotte  Offline
Jellyfish
M

Joined: Jun 2006
Posts: 115
Ireland
I like that: 'lust is fanned by beauty'. I suppose there's a degree of truth in that alright!
I haven't had male friends for a very long time. When i was young, free and single i had loads of them. Some of them were old boyfriends, some were just plain old friends, some were relatives of friends. I loved the different approach that they had to friendship, and always valued their advice. No deep analysis, just a 'tell it like it is' approach.
I think it is possible for men and women to be friends; just so long as both of them accept that friendship is all that's on the menu. And if one or both change their minds at any time, then they can renegotiate like any other type of relationship.

Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283536
12/07/06 04:37 PM
12/07/06 04:37 PM
Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 311
Vancouver, Canada
Laurie PK Offline
Shark
Laurie PK  Offline
Shark

Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 311
Vancouver, Canada
I absolutely adore my male friends! I was friends with my husband for 16 years before we got married. We've been married for over a year, and I'm still in touch with 3 of my past male friends, who live in different cities (so it's just monthly emails, and visits every couple of years). I love my girlfriends, too -- for a whole different set of reasons.

In "When Harry Met Sally", they were attracted to each other, they had sexual chemistry. That chemistry isn't active in every friendship which leads me to believe we can just be friends. I think it depends on the people and their circumstances, too.

Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283537
12/08/06 05:28 AM
12/08/06 05:28 AM
Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 622
Canada
L
lala21 Offline
Gecko
lala21  Offline
Gecko
L

Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 622
Canada
Quote:
In "When Harry Met Sally", they were attracted to each other, they had sexual chemistry. That chemistry isn't active in every friendship which leads me to believe we can just be friends. I think it depends on the people and their circumstances, too.


That's a good way of putting it!

Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283538
12/08/06 05:58 AM
12/08/06 05:58 AM
Joined: Feb 2005
Posts: 335
Washington State
AnaMaree Offline
Shark
AnaMaree  Offline
Shark

Joined: Feb 2005
Posts: 335
Washington State
I have several male friends, always did in school and do now. Hubby has no problem with it, there is nothing going on and never will. I love all my friends and am glad for all of them.

Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283539
12/08/06 01:58 PM
12/08/06 01:58 PM
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 5,004
India
Modern Woman Offline
Wolf
Modern Woman  Offline
Wolf

Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 5,004
India
Can you be as open with your male friends as your female ones?

Re: Can a man and a woman be "just friends...?" #283540
12/08/06 02:17 PM
12/08/06 02:17 PM
Joined: Nov 2006
Posts: 25
sandy22 Offline
Newbie
sandy22  Offline
Newbie

Joined: Nov 2006
Posts: 25
I have great friendships with both my male and female friends. We just act like brothers and sisters. There is no sexual attraction present at all. I find that it does not particularly matter whether they are female or male. If I am comfortable with them, I will generally be more open with them.

Page 1 of 4 1 2 3 4

Brand New Posts
Top Ten Astronomy Stories of 2019 *new*
by Mona - Astronomy. 01/18/20 08:51 AM
2020: On this day . . .
by Mona - Astronomy. 01/18/20 08:39 AM
The Royal Couple searching for New Home
by Monika R. 01/17/20 05:40 PM
Do you have a label?
by Lynne - ChristianLiving. 01/17/20 02:48 PM
Native Women in Film Festival
by Monika R. 01/17/20 06:45 AM
Cold snap in Alaska!
by Monika R. 01/16/20 11:12 PM
What defines our Canadian culture?
by Angie. 01/16/20 08:19 PM
Button Embellishments
by Cheryl - Sewing Editor. 01/15/20 11:32 PM
Workshop For Female Screenwriters Over 40
by Angela - Drama Movies. 01/15/20 02:49 AM
A call for repentance, fasting, and prayer
by Lynne - ChristianLiving. 01/14/20 05:17 PM
Privacy
This forum uses cookies to ensure smooth navigation from page to page of a thread. If you choose to register and provide your email, that email is solely used to get your password to you and updates on any topics you choose to watch. Nothing else. Ask with any questions!
Channel List
Beauty & Self
Books & Music
Career
Computers
Education
Family
Food & Wine
Health & Fitness
Hobbies & Crafts
Home & Garden
Money
News & Politics
Relationships
Religion & Spirituality
Sports
Travel & Culture
TV & Movies
Safety
We take forum safety very seriously here at BellaOnline. Please be sure to read through our Forum Guidelines. Let us know if you have any questions or comments!
Sponsor


| About BellaOnline | Privacy Policy | Advertising | Become an Editor |
Website copyright © 2020 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.


Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.1