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I remember a conversation. The woman told that she was keeping herself beautiful at every cost. She was worried that if she did not look beautiful always, her husband would go to other women. I was shocked with this statement. Is this a rare instance?

How about some posts on Men: men's attitudes, men's insecurities, men's roles, men's influences....?

I know this is a woman's forum, but why do I get the impression from your posts that you think many issues are either kick-started, generated or engendered by women?

It takes two to tango, you know....
And people generally reflect what they receive....

Ok. Why do men who themselves have stopped looking handsome expect their wives to be beautiful at all ages? Why do men go to prostitutes? Do not they hate buying a body for some hours? Why are they not ashamed of their conduct? Why sex has become a commodity for men? They should hate themselves. But they do not. They boast about all their misdeeds.

....and now.....

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why don't you also start some threads on the topic suggested by you? That would be great. I have observed that you normally do not start a thread. why so?

You asked a good question. I don't understand why men expect beauty at all cost, but I recently read two books, "For Women Only" and "For Men Only" that explains a bit about it. If you want to hear more about them, I reviewed them at: URL: http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art47166.asp

However, even though I don't think it's fair, it's a fact of life and it will take a long time to change these attitudes. I'm also very impressed with the Campaign for Real Beauty conducted by Dove. I've been reading material from their international study on this and it seems if we want to change people's attitude (men/husbands included) we need to start with our own attitudes (women/girls/mothers). I believe it is as much a self-esteem issue. I intend to write on the subject, but want to do more research.

However, back to your question about men turning to other women when their wives aren't as beautiful as they want, it does happen unfortunately. But, I personally think that a man who is prone to cheat, will cheat for any reason. In fact, I have known men who have had beautiful wives who have cheated. It's not just because of how a wife looks, sometimes that is just an excuse. I honestly believe there are some men who would cheat and blame it on the size of his wife's feet if he thought that was a good excuse.

So, what I'm saying is yes, it does happen. But it's not all because of a woman's looks. It's the man's moral fiber.

Your concluding sentence is quite powerful.

That in itself is a good question, I suppose....
maybe I am one of Life's observers, maybe....I love discussions, but I just like to sit back and see what stirs...
I haven't always been like this, though...
I used to be very very confrontational, and at times very aggressive. Traits that, although much improved (believe me!) I am still working on to dispel and dissipate...

My following of Buddhism has done much to transform me.

But that's a whole different topic.

Maybe I'll start a thread..... <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I used to be very very confrontational, and at times very aggressive. Traits that, although much improved (believe me!) I am still working on to dispel and dissipate...

please excuse me. But you are still very much so. I apologize if I am hurting you. Following Buddism itself has given you the ego, which you are supposed to obliterate by following it. This too shall pass away.

No so.
The ego existed before the Buddhism.
It is in Buddhism that I am working to make it pass away.
There is no Self. I am working to get my tiny, inefficient little Mind around that.

I am not hurt.

There is no 'Me' to hurt....