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Re: 10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem [Re: ] #306375 04/11/07 03:09 AM
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"4. Develop the ability to accept criticism about yourself, without getting upset or defensive. This will help you eliminate your weaknesses one by one..."

You mean there are people out there who've eliminated their weaknesses? Now i am really depressed! :D:D:D:D:D

.. but seriously, these are great tips. I just don't personally find it "a not very difficult task" to improve self-esteem.

For instance, number 7, not putting yourself down. I know this in principle, but i find it very hard to eliminate. Many of us with low self esteem heard others putting us down for so long, that when we think critical thoughts of ourselves it just seems familiar and normal, and often goes unnoticed. I often catch myself picking at myself and then realize i'd been doing it for half an hour and only noticed i was putting myself down when i started feeling terrible.

I work on my self esteem a lot, but i find it hard work and i would love to progress faster. Anyone have any further ideas?

Re: 10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem [Re: hollyelise] #306424 04/11/07 07:15 AM
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Love yourself unconditionally. Forgive yourself for all the mistakes.

Re: 10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem [Re: Modern Woman] #306466 04/11/07 01:38 PM
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Acceptance... i'm on to it.

Re: 10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem [Re: hollyelise] #306605 04/12/07 09:14 AM
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That gives us lots of happiness.

Re: 10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem [Re: Modern Woman] #306831 04/13/07 04:01 AM
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smile

Re: 10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem [Re: hollyelise] #306851 04/13/07 04:45 AM
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Are you happy today?
Did all this conversation help?
honest opinion?

Re: 10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem [Re: Modern Woman] #306964 04/13/07 06:25 PM
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Yes, it has and it does.

I'm doing better this month as far as feeling happy in the short term. Directing my thoughts periodically during the day to look at the best, is really helping! Quite dramatically, actually.

I still need to do much better with my self esteem though. It's not that i consciously feel unworthy, but when i want to do something new, like sign up for more college or apply for new jobs... then i find i feel pretty insecure and i drag my feet and fret over it. It's silly, i know, but it's holding me back, and gives me anxiousness.

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This is simple I think. We have to decide about the goals that we need to reach to feel that we are working to our full potential. after that we do get satisfaction.

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But isn't that making it conditional? What happened to accepting ourselves as we are?

I know what my goals are. But after working hard at this for years, clearly there i have some kind of internal barrier. I think it may be lack of confidence, and fear of what will happen if i reach my goals.

Re: 10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem [Re: hollyelise] #307180 04/15/07 04:41 AM
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You make a good point.

We should certainly have higher goals and try to achieve them.
But whether we do so or not, we should happily accept ourselves for what we are.

I set goals, i could achieve some, failed in some. I love myself either way. I at least tried. I appreciate myself for that.

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