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This is a funny thing about colleges. The Federal government and colleges counts parental income into aide, but then there is no response to parents.

If a married individual applies for financial aid, the spouse's income is considered as part of the resources available to that student. But the spouse is not entitled to access to the student's records or any other student related information unless the student specifically grants this right to the spouse. Accountability is to the student first and foremost; and its not an arbitrary decision. Its the law.

The point of the previous post is this... if the student is 18 or older, he/she is legally an adult in the U.S. As such, the student is entitled to the rights granted to adults.

If, as a parent, you want some sort of accountability for your investment, look to your student.

Absolute craziness! I often wonder if parents today just can't handle too much. I ponder this all the time because many of these parents are my age and I wonder what on earth went wrong in our upbringing that contributed to this. They seem to micromanage everything-----including raising children. I'm not sure if it's a lack of trust or they themselves were insecurely attached to their parents. It's a scary and ridiculous thing to witness. It makes me not want to have kids.

I think that what parents fail to realise is that 'bad' experiences in life teach us just as much about the world as the 'good' experiences. You can't see things in purely black/white. Accidents, mistakes, and injuries (emotional or physical) all tend to teach us SOMETHING about the world around us.

The pains that I've experienced in my own life have taught me to have empathy for others who experience the same pain - and it allows me to help them through it, because I understand what they're going through.

In the same way, mistakes teach you how -not- to do something. I'm bad with directions, but when I get lost somewhere and eventually manage to find my way back...I remember.

Parents don't realise that keeping their kids from these bumps and stumbling blocks makes them much less prepared for life. If you've never struggled to achieve something, how will you know how to do it in the future - when no one's there to hold your hand?

Life is like a mountain, where even the stumbling blocks get you closer to the peak.