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HI there
I'm new to this forum and would just like to say how great it and the CF articles are. I'm 32, married, no kids, 5 cats and have no maternal instincts at all. All my friends bar one, are breeding and am beginning to feel isolated, for a time I even wondered if I should have a baby since it seemed the right thing to do, but reading CF forums like this and others in the UK, has made me realise that this is a valid choice to make and I have to accept that my friends and I will no longer be close. I like their kids, but I like saying goodbye to them even more. The pressure to conform is huge, but the consequences of having kids you don't want would be much worse. I like my career, my expensive holidays, my 2 seater car and my quiet tidy house. If that makes me selfish then so be it.

Loving the Katherine Hepburn quote by the way.

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Welcome to the forum RG! I've only been posting a couple of weeks, so am still pretty much a newbie. It's really great to have somewhere to go and chat to like-minded people though, isn't it?? I'm 33 and have known for some time that i don't want children, but many of my friends are now starting families. A couple of others are considerig whether they're cut out for parenthood, and it's good to see that at least some people are thinking consciously about their choices. Whatever they decide, at least they'll have thought about the pros and cons. Unlike the vast majority of parents who have the nike approach and 'just do it!'. An older childfree woman i know maintains that people have children because of the way it happens, ie sex. She says that if you had to go down to tesco to buy them, most people wouldn't bother!

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Hello RG - it's always great to have new voices on the forum. I'm 34, I've been married for six years, and have always known I don't want to have kids....ever since my first nearly disasterous babysitting job as a teenager. I just don't enjoy being around children, I like the freedom of not having to worry about anyone but myself, and I like spending my money and my time on me (and my husband).


Mother always said that even when things seem bad there's someone else who's having a worse day. Like being stung by a bee or getting a splinter or being chained to the wall in someone's sex dungeon.
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Hi RG - welcome to the forum. I'm 33 and have know since I was 15 that I didn't want kids. I don't like babysitting either, and I'd rather spend my time and money on me. It's great to meet someone who feels the same way.

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[color:"blue"] I second that, freespirit! <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> [/color]


If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
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Hi. I'm 26 and CF. I just found bellaonline a couple of days ago or so. I like kids just fine, I just don't want any of my own. Well, that's me.


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