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#248806 08/30/06 04:19 AM
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[color:"purple"] People have thier own views on what does or does not work for them. My husband and i are into alternate lifestyles, as most would define. We swing, as we define it. But with other men, not women. we don't do casual sex as its said. we get to know the person more. my husband has no desire to go with other women, and is bi, so it fits our bill. we have been married 2 years, but togehter for 8. again, it works for us. YMMV
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#248807 08/30/06 11:20 PM
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[color:"purple"] Nikkinast i applaud you. You are so right. my husband and i have been married 2 years, together 8. We don't 'swing' in the normal sense with couples, but just with men.
i thought i'd written a post but must have done something wrong, as i didn't see it, so i'll end there. anyone interested in more PM me or say Hi. and i don't mean i'm trolling ok!
why is WIITWD, in any sense of the word, wrong?what works for one might not work for another. but why is it WRONG?
why are people SO judgemental. I'm in a psych human sexuality course. its funny when some things come up. mainly younger kids, but also its on a AFB and so a lot of the people are airmen. people just aren't openminded in general i think. The teacher is an ordaned minister, has degrees in counceling, psych, ministry and a few others. talk about an open mind! i mean the bible is full of sex and debauchary. REad the song of solomon. lots of gay references also. i mean she mentioned that the word homoxexual wasn't even IN the bible till WE put it there in 1947! so,,,,,

the one thing my son loved about me was that he could also talke to me about anything and he knew he'd get an unbiased answer. or his friends. he'll make up his mind on things, whatever they are, and i can't do it for him. Values are what YOU are comfortable with. not your neighbor, not the state not whomever.
ok. tirade over.
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#248808 08/31/06 04:48 PM
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How old is your son? Does he live with you?

#248809 08/31/06 04:53 PM
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My issue with & question to swingers is that I think it would only be a risky & sensitive issue when you have kids involved. How can you have childern (who take up most of your time), find time to swing, and be so discreet about it to not burden your kids with the mental & emotional confusion they could endure if they found out?


Why would there be mental and emotional confusion for the child? after all there is nothing wrong is there? <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

#248810 09/01/06 02:56 AM
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noooo, my son is now 21. this is my second husband i'm talking about, not my sons father. sorry for the confusion. i was a single mother.


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#248811 09/01/06 03:06 AM
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My opinion is it is okay to swing but not within marriage.If people want to do that sort of thing fine but thay should not marry.

Marriage means commiting yourself to one partner and if they cant do that that is okay but dont marry because it cheapens marriage.Marriage is to sacred to bring something like swinging into it.
[color:"purple"] i think about all i can say here is... why????
that is what You think, sure. but not everyone thinks the same way. I'm in a psych sexuality course and its amazing to me the steriotypes that still exist. like women drivers are worse, women shop all the time etc.
We have grown up believing that sex is one way or not. usually because of our religious backgrounds. yet its produced many women that are afraid to say they can't orgasm too. so not everything is always perfect and square even if we want it to be.
the biggest thing i wish anyone could do is to have an open mind. its not WRONG, its wrong for YOU.
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#248812 09/01/06 03:16 AM
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[color:"purple"] I just wanted to say there is nothing wrong with our relationship. We are completely sexually compatable and totally satisfy each other! in fact it is because of my husband that i can orgasm besides by my own hand per se. i now am multi orgasmic, and to tell the truth, he is also. no its not something that you learn overnight.
long story short, he is bi. and i personally enjoy having two men <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> and enjoy the pleasure it give my husband also. WE don't pick people up in bars for heavans sakes! we don't have kids in the house, and are not jealous people. we talked about this alot and came up with rules and such. No i wouldn't go into this without a solid background with your spouse. if you don't communicate completely, forget it.
yes, we've found some immature people along the way. they're outttt of here!
our goal is to find one or two people that we can associate with on a more permenant basis. otherwise imho it IS just F**** and, no, that isn't what we're looking for. BUT to someone else that might be different.
as long as YOU two know whats going on. talk talk talk!
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#248813 09/01/06 08:37 PM
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you and your husband seem happy and you are not hurting anyone so if that is what it takes to make yur marriage work then that is a good thing for you two.
I guess alot of people dont understand because it is not the norm.

#248814 09/01/06 08:48 PM
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[color:"purple"] it is true that what isn't the 'norm' most people just concider wrong or whatever.its funny in our psych sexuality course how many misnomers are out there. how many sterioutypes people have and what they think when corrected or ideas have changed. i just find it ammusing. <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I appreicate your open mind. thank you.
Hope everyone has a great labour day, if you're in the US anyway.
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#248815 09/01/06 09:00 PM
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I have always been an open minded person and I hope you dont think I was being judgemental and I am sorry If I came across that way as I never want to appear that way.I get enough flack from people because I am childfree !lol....

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