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My boyfriend and I live in a college town, and after completing the mba program, plan on moving elsewhere. We have never encountered problems with our relationship here, but his family [who are Nigerian] do not necessarily approve. We have also been to North Carolina where we received a number of unaccepting glances.

I have been in an interracial relationship for over a year now (white female, black male), and although where we live it is absolutely acceptable (most of the black men date white women), I know this is not always the case. I am curious how this topic is viewed in other areas, and the difficulties, or lack there of, people have experienced.


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i live in Oregon and I see it around here Interacial dating. I dont even look twice, but I know that there are judgemental people no matter where you go...

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Yeah, it just depends. My last relationship was with a black man and I'm white and we lived in NYC and obviously it wasn't out of the ordinary there. But where I live now, in certain areas it would be an issue, but not in others. We were still dating when I moved here and it was fine, but like I said some bars or some towns I would expect to get some looks so we just didn't go to those places.


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There'll always be stares, and comments no matter where you move. It's up to you to defy the negative sentiments. Sometimes the one for you doesn't look like you. There aren't many whites living in Nigeria, so the concern of his parents is understandable, as we always question things we don't understand.


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i live in NC and i know all about the stares, ect people are gonna stare and show their ignorance, i just stare at them back. i do think that is it generally worse in the southern states, i've been to the nothern states too, and i like the attitides of the people better atleast when it comes to interacial dating, but dont let those people get to you.....love knows no color and just continue to hold your head up about the situation

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I live in Seattle and as far as I know it's a non-issue for the majority around here (there will always be a few a$$ clowns who have a problem with it but they seem to be few and far between). In high school and college I dated a few boys/men who were black or Asian and I never felt like we were getting funny looks and I didn't hear any negative comments.

A friend of mine taught school in a small town in Louisiana a few years ago though, and she said the black kids and the white kids totally separated themselves - they barely spoke to each other let alone dated each other. She said it was quite a culture shock after growing up in the Pacific Northwest.

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My brother's girlfriend is white. While growing up we were not limited to color; the rule was, what mattered was if they treated you with love and respect. Out of all the girlfriends my brother has had, I am glad he has found a girlfriend that he is very happy with. And I couldn't ask for a sweeter sister-in-law (fingers crossed). <img src="/images/graemlins/heart.gif" alt="" />


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people are just gonna be people i guess, i think the receptivity of these types of relationships is better accepted in some areas than others, in nc there are alot of ww/bm relationships it seems commomplace, but as a bf/ who dates wm i sometimes get stares, or looked at a little too long becuase certain types of races are more commonly seen together as couples than others

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I have two best friends, one 27, one 30. Their mother told them, if they were to marry a black man, that she would disown them. The older daughter flat out told me that white people should be with white people, and black people should be with black people. The younger daughter is quite a bit more open minded and said that you can't help who you fall in love with.

the moral of the story is, getting a few stupid stares here and there are not that bad, as long as your family supports you

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thats true..my family has never had a problem with anything and all of my friends are open-minded as well

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