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Gastric bypass was suggested to me, but I think it's just too risky. I know a few women for whom it was a huge success and went on to having healthy pregnancies. I also know even more people who have had gallbladder disease from loosing weight so quickly and two who have had miscarriages because they weren't able to eat for two and the babies just wasted away. So, I have to do this "the old fashioned way". I've learned more important than diet is exercise so have traded in my knitting needles for house cleaning whether it needs it or not - I like to see immediate results, but also walk daily.

It's so frustrating that I can't even get in for an interview, and when I do they don't do a typing test. They've made up their minds upon a visual assessement and that ends that. I wish someone would like me show my stuff and prove I can transcribe very well.

Well, I pray and I keep on trying.

Have you ever tried demanding a typing test? I mean if you think they've already made up their decision it wouldn't hurt. Then you'd be able to show your skills.

Even though we don't expect them the right things come at the right time (at least looking back).

You have the right thinking... "keep on trying". Be persistent. Call back. Good luck starmom.

Starmom...hang in there. Good for you for "doing it the old fashioned way" and focusing on exercise. I don't have any idea if you need to lose weight, but please, even if you do...love yourself as you are right now. Change is most likely to come from a base of acceptance. I am amazed, sometimes, to hear myself talking to 'me' in a negative, derrogative way that I'd never use when talking to anyone else. I take a deep breath and then talk to myself more gently. That's what helps me. Good luck with your job search. It can be really tough. A few years ago I was seaching for a job in Social Work. I'd heard a lot of "no's". Then at one interview I was told my size would be an advantage on this particular job because "the clients may be intimidated by your size". I didn't take the job (I don't want to intimidate anyone) - but it did make me laugh <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Please keep posting.

Juliann...I am very scared of any program that would result in the loss of 200 pounds in 300 days!!! If my math is right, that's 3/4 of a pound a day. My doctor would have a fit if I lost weight that fast, because it would signify a medical emergency - not a diet success. I understand this forum is a place for everyone to express themselves and I don't want to argue with you about this. I'm just concerned that in a culture where women abuse their bodies in an effort to achieve the "ideal" wieght, someone might read your post as encouragement to starve themselves.

Trish

I have heard that so many bypass surgeries end up with gallbladder disease and another operation all due to loosing the weight too fast. So 3/4's of a lb a day is going to land you in the hospital with more complications than is worth it.

I have a controlling diminishing husband. On the phone the other night, I realized I had just plain HAD IT! with his bullying and, matter of factly, informed him I didn't appreciate his particular line of bull. I FINALLY! have decided to stand up for myself and it was a real shock to my mental process. Whenever we do realize something that profound that springs up from our soul, our mental attitude is delighted and a special "lightness" comes over us. I feel empowered. And since that day, little things are starting to go my way. I came up out of my depression and started cleaning the house, and organizing my life. I am going to find a job, the difference being right now that I really want one badly enough to be a bit more aggressive. I pray all day that God will find me that perfect job, but when I pray I have to give him all the specifics. Even God has to have an exact blueprint to work with and so I get specific with him right down to the smallest detail.

Moe - I pushed for a typing test with one interviewer and then sat there totally amused at all the ways she tried to wiggle out of it. So I'd try another tactic and she'd wiggle out of it. I got to where I knew I wasn't going to get the test, but by now I was just enoying watching her squirm. Finally, I just told her I didn't think her hospital had an ideal employment history and I'd be happier looking elsewhere! If you know you're going to be the looser, I figure I have nothing to loose by being a bit assertive then. I still see her now and then when I'm there to see my doctor etc. and I always make sure to say, "How's the transcription business coming along?" She sqirms! I enjoy.

Starmom,

Great!!! Sounds like you are really taking control of your personal life and still looking hard for a job. With your positive attitude - success is on the way.
Funny...I can always tell how depressed/or not I am by how my house looks <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> On good days, I clean - on hard days, I just exist.
I so appreciate you sharing how life is going for you. Thank you! Good luck, and please keep posting.
Trish

Trish,
I never realized it until you posted about good days and bad days and house cleaning. Apparently I do the same thing. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

If that man still thinks that then he has issues with reality. It is not just in his country it is also happening in many other countries. Speaking about facts is not shaming and it's not attacking either. Just like saying someone is fat and someone is obese is not shaming and attacking. These things are also not insults it is reality and facts.