You don't have to be a man to travel outside the bonds of marriage. My husband has not desired me for some time now. I have encouraged him. We love each other dearly but I feel I am living with my father.
I never will leave this wonderful man. I do, however, have another man in my life that fills my every need.
I sometimes wonder if my other life is because of my platonic relationship with my husband or my need to feel special and deeply loved. I do now feel those things with the other man.
I do not to intend to give up this other man. For the time anyway, he vows he will "share".
If anyone would have told me 10 years ago I would be behaving in this manor, I would have laughed in their face.
Time changes things and for now, this is what I need.