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HI -

I am new to this sight and would like to find out info abt. dating a Polish male. We have a special chemistry, but I would like to know the dating customs of his culture. He has been in this country for approx. 3 years. I am curious about the dating customs and i need to become familiar to avoid misconstruing anything he might do or say. Also, if anyone has any insight into Polish males and what they expect and don't expect.... that would be helpful.

Thx, yve

Hello yve,

Welcome to our forum. There are a few Polish males who post here, so maybe they will have some advice for you. Meanwhile, here are some articles that Jaga wrote about dating. http://culture.polishsite.us/smfamily.html

Nancy

Hi-I think Polish men are lovely-I've been married to one for 8 years! He's from Bialystok and has been in the US for ten years. Although I of course can't speak in generalities, I find he is more open-minded about sexuality than American men, and is less so in other ways-for example, he is uncomfortable about my having male friends. I find him to be somewhat more evolved than his Polish male friends-he chooses to think more progressively about women then they do, for example, and works on being emotionally available. When we were dating I found him to be refreshingly straight-forward, honest, romantic, unpretentious, and charming. I can't really comment on your last two sentences-I don't know what's typical of the Polish male. But I hope yours is as wonderful as mine turned out to be. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Wow, prana, that husband of yours sounds wonderful! We should all be so lucky!!

Welcome to our forum!

Nancy

Hello Yve,
I am a Polish man and here's my 3 grosze. If you have good chemistry all will be alright or will break as fast as a glass vase. Some tensions are due to man - woman relation rather then cultural but here's what I can think of:
He might want to see you every day or every second day if you're not ready for that frequency of dates find ways of communicating it to him but withut hurting his feelings. He may not understand why don't you want to be with him intead.
He may think "harrasing" you by frequent calls and dates is to shows that he likes you.
He might leave it up to you how you spend time together so have some variety to offer and do not limit dates to restaurants by no means.
It is likely he will admire your individualism and independence from one hand and enjoy you being natural and femine.
Good luck

Hi Prana and Forza,

maybe you could add a bit more comments about some uniqness of Polish men <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> and we could write an article about it.

The best I could do was this article and I guess this was not poorly written since this article was always at the top of the most popular, but there can be much more to add

http://culture.polishsite.us/art-dating.html
How to Impress Polish Lady on the First Date

I'm a Polish woman married to a Polish man so there hasn't benn any culture clashes between us. If it helps I'll try to say something about Polish men.
That's true they don't like their women to have male friends. Mine wouldn't like that although if I insisted he would have to tolerate it. Try to make your friend his friend.
They are quite flexible and open-minded, I believe they appreciate women who are self confident and independent, not relying on them owith each matter. I'm used to the idea that a woman works, so is my husband, but you may come across some who would like they partner/wife to stay at home.
It's so difficult to say in general, I'll just leave you with one piece of advice - if he shows any signs of being brutal, no matter how generous, apologising he is after a fit of anger, don't believe he'll change. It runs in blood, beware.
Perhaps Polish men are not the most handsome in the world but their sense of humour is something that'll cheer you up in gloomy November nights.

Hi there

I am a apolish male, age 30. My observations are based on my friends, and myself:

- we are open minded,
- we like the woman to be independent,
- as for male friends - there is no problem for me, however in general polish males consider other male as a posible challenger,
- we absolutely don't like women who are talking much about nothing,
- we don't like comparing to other males, unless of course we have the advantage :-)
- we are natural born hunters, women who are too easy to 'score' are considered a bad choice,
- women whe are too hard to conquer, are no good either,
- in general we don't like women who use too much make-up.


When you meet all requirements, you will be treated by you r man as his personal godness.


Greets
Yanc

Yanc, that sounds really good. Perfect piece of advertisement.

How long is it that a man should treat his woman as his goddess? (I must remind it to my husband)

what others have said rings so true with me-especially the comments about brutality-my father is Polish American and unresolved anger does seem to get passed down from father to son. Fortunately my husband addressed this in himself and managed to overcome it. And also the observation about the Polish man calling frequently if he likes you-I encountered this as well. And I found it to be so refreshing after the games American men can sometimes play. And YES-the comment about him treating you like a goddess-also very true!