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Re: Tired if being treated as inferior! #212411 09/20/06 04:41 AM
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Sorry to be vague. I don't mean jealous of my kids. I mean jealous of my lifestyle. Not everyone wants to put on a rat suit and run in a race. Many friends of mine who wouldn't dare give up their careers, hate the pace, and numbing routine of their lives.


NOt likeley that she would be jealous of your lifestyle either or else she would choose that lifestyle herself..


As for hating the numbing routine of their lives the same could be said for motherhood. I am career orientated and Personally I could not think of anything more mind numbing than being a parent - how repetitious and boring...but that is just me.

My job is very rewarding and I get to travel to alot of places and meet interesting people that I would not get the chance to do if I was a stay at home mum. I know which one I would perfer so I really dont think your friend is jealous of your lifestyle <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Oops! I doubled up on my post!

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Re: Tired if being treated as inferior! #212413 09/20/06 06:48 PM
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When you are disconnected from your life, any task can be mind-numbing. Stress or exhaustion can also cause mental agony. You have to love the life you are in or create one that you can enjoy. The joy that my family brings into my life always far outweighs the pain. I feel blessed and lucky, and I know that rubs off on my kids.

As far as people being jealous of my life, I have been told so, more than once. Maybe it�s a case of the grass looking greener, but it�s also the fertilizer you use to cause your life to blossom. You know, a life filled with joy verses dull and empty.

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I guess it depends....I'm home full time (used to have a career outside the home) and our life together is anything but boring and repetitious! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

But it is what I make of it. We don't stay home and stare at each other. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> We're out and about all week long, visiting museums, going to the library, etc...I go out with mommy friends at least once a week and am thoroughly enjoying life.

I hated the rat race and trying to "keep up" with everyone else. My kids are a blast and I love raising them.

Re: Tired if being treated as inferior! #212415 09/20/06 07:35 PM
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Plus the fact that my 3 yr old for one keeps things very interesting, LOL! <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

There are times when I wish he weren't so interesting, because it's hard to know what he is going to get into next!

(His nickname is Houdini if that tells you anything!)


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Re: Tired if being treated as inferior! #212416 09/20/06 08:42 PM
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When you are disconnected from your life, any task can be mind-numbing. Stress or exhaustion can also cause mental agony. You have to love the life you are in or create one that you can enjoy. The joy that my family brings into my life always far outweighs the pain. I feel blessed and lucky, and I know that rubs off on my kids.

As far as people being jealous of my life, I have been told so, more than once. Maybe it�s a case of the grass looking greener, but it�s also the fertilizer you use to cause your life to blossom. You know, a life filled with joy verses dull and empty.


You do make some valid points... I guess the bottom line here is life is what you make it.

Sure there are alot of people out there that are unhappy in their jobs but in order to make a living and support their deppendants it s what they have to do,that is just life but then there are others like me who are so passionate about everything they do including their job - I dont think I am in some kind of rat race - quite the oppisite actually....Some parents out there feel like that too,they feel trapped in their situation and that is so sad as it does reflect on the children.

I am glad you are very happy in your life as you are right it does rub off on your children.Your life sounds very rewarding and I am sure it is for you.

Cheers! <img src="/images/graemlins/beamedup.gif" alt="" />

Re: Tired if being treated as inferior! #212417 09/21/06 01:23 PM
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With the world being what it is. I think it is important for stay-at-home moms, now more than ever,to really think outside the box. With material things production in over-drive and stressful lives making lots of tension (school shootings, etc.) we moms are in a power position ( and generally, we don't know it) to show and direct kids away from the precipice of selfish egotism (for one thing.) I think the first step is to be present in the "big" picture, and not squirreled away gossiping with friends. But, taking charge in our homes and communities, to create a better life than the one that is offered, even if it is a good life good already.
I watched my mom reupholster a couch and chair when I was a kid, that is one small example that comes to mind, of how she gave me the feeling that I could do anything I set my mind to.

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[color:"blue"] I don't think it as much as the non-childed are making you guys feel inferior, as you guys are just unhappy with your place in life. [/color]


If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
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I disagree, although I understand your perspective.

Mothering is heavily dosed in self-esteem issues. A career woman can prop herself up with her wardrobe, promotion, adult interacting. A stay-at-home mom, for all her struggles, has "herself" to tell her she is doing something right.

And sacrificing wages to insure she is there for her kids, (even though she may not be able to justify a new wardrobe or vacation away,) is benefitting her family in subtle ways she can't always notice or remember, when she sees her career oriented friends drive up in a new car.

I doubt many mothers dislike their choices. But, at a time of extreme buying, and "having" (as a measuring stick for esteem) it is tough to stand up for what is wholesome. But stay-at-home mothers most often do.

Re: Tired if being treated as inferior! #212420 10/03/06 12:40 AM
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WaterLily, I was really upset one night when I wrote the original post (over a year ago - WOW!)

I will have to do some searching to find where the original conversation came from- but the poster, "Dr. Keith" (who no longer posts on here BTW) had made some truly disparaging remarks about us stay-at-home Moms. So he really was trying to say we were inferior - as a matter of fact those were pretty much his exact words - that people who didn't have children were more intellegent than those who did!

So I lambasted him! It was not the best thing in the world to do, but I take Ambien for on-going insomnia, and if I get on the computer after I take it, my brain's "governor" is sometimes down, and I'll say things that I maybe should just think and not say! <img src="/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

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