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What do you think about others nursing in public?


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It's concealed so well now a days, Its not like your boob is hanging out for the world to see. My daughter in law breast fed my to granddaughters and she did it so discreetly that no one needed to take offense to it. There was nothing indecent about it.


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I don't have a problem with it as long as it's done discreetly. You know, without drawing a crowd. smile I think it should be encouraged.

Heck, here women can walk around topless if they want to (they don't) so they should be able to breast feed without being bothered.

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I think it is just fine. I have seen women place small blankets over them as a cover and when I was a security guard in a mall and I saw a woman breastfeeding, I would ask her if she wanted to go in the mall office or the security office. Now most of the malls in New York anyway, have rooms by the rst rooms called "family rooms". They are carpeted rooms with changing tables and comfortable chairs and a rest room.

In my church, I saw a woman breastfeeding in the foyer and invited her into the bookstore where no one was and turned off the lights for her to give her privacy.

I think it is hard enough for women to breastfeed and then have to worry about if people are going to to stare, gawk or be rude about it. When a baby needs to eat, a baby needs to eat. The baby doesn't care where he/she is at the time.


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Breast feeding is the best for the child and these narrowed minded people who think differently needs to re think about this. As long as a mother cover's herself, what do you care or why are YOU watching in the first place! Should the child starve, because some's nose is out of joint? Come on ... wake up. Breast feeding was done in Biblical times! Why does someone have to make mountains out of mole hills?

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Hjm, No body has said any thing negative about it,


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I could be wrong but I think Hjm was talking about the people who make a fuss when they see a mother breastfeeding. I dont think Hjm was talking about anyone posting in this thread.


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It doesn't bother me at all. I was never able to get my daughter to latch on but twice, I always felt badly that I was not able to give this to my daughter. When I was trying, she cried and screamed, it was horrible. I found out that even though my daughters chart said I was going to breast feed and to NOT give her a bottle, one of the nurses did anyway. I have always wondered if this might have causes nipple confusion.

I saw a woman at Target breastfeeding while she was shopping. I have always wondered how they do that. I have always had a bad back so I never walked around holding my daughter.

I know this is a hot button issue so I looked around to see if anyone had a problem with her and I don't know that anyone even noticed. The woman was trying to be discreet, she had her shirt over her breast.

I feel lucky, in spite of the fact that I was not able to breast feed my daughter, she has been very healthy, she clearly got her immune system from her Father. She was in Kindergarten before she ever had to take any kind of perscriptions at all and it was an antibiotic that time. I remember the doctor asked me what kind of antibiotic worked best for her, I told him she had never had any before (he was shocked) and asked him to NOT give her Penicillin because of my own allergy to that medication, no need to take chances.

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Lisa,

It is not uncommon for a baby not to like to breastfeed. My first four children would not breastfeed at all. (I probably should have shaved around the area of my breast first. lol)

Seriously though, they would not breastfeed at all and I believe it was nipple confusion. I have had two children with my first wife and two children with my gf after I was divorced, of course. lol

They both had C-Sections and were groggy from drugs so could not breastfeed when the baby needed to eat, so they gave the children bottles at first and a doctor told us that it was nipple confusion.


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I felt rather devastated by it. I am sure part of that was the hormones of it all.

I had a regular birth AND I had enough breast milk to feed every baby on the ward. If I had the money, I would have liked to purchase a breast pump but that was not a posibility at that point.

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I dont have a problem with breast feeding in public. what bothers me is the ones that flop out there breast and dont bother to cover up and then set there with their breast hanging out for all to see after the kid is a sleep.... or wait till there is a good looking rick guy and then wake up the baby to breast feed and make a huge production of it.


Its like they found a new way to get men!!!

most women are very discret or kinda embaressed about it and they should not feel embaressed about feeding their baby.

it just should not be used to get attention....

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i really think it depends on the location. For example when you are in a hair salon getting your hair done, and your child is at the age where they squirm. Please do not expect your esthetician or hairstylist to be able to do a proper job. (yes i have seen that)

I think the reason it is such an issue is that moms today are busier than ever & im sure given the choice the last thing they want to do is breastfeed in a noisy shopping mall etc.

I do think optimally it should be a private matter between mom & baby. If more places had actual nursing stations instead of just a dirty bathroom available I think that more women would take advantage of it.

It doesn't bother me when its done discreetly and its not a big production.



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I totally agree - if its done discreetly I have no problem at all.
I saw a young mother the other day nursing her tiny baby - she had a small shawl draped over her shoulder so I wasn't even aware she was breast feeding initially.

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most of the time i dont notice women breastfeeding there baby. but I have seen women breast feed a older child in [ublic and I think that is borderline abuse!!! come on maybe in third world countrys where there is not food avalible for toddlers but here in Texas when the kid can talk and walk its time to find the baby food isle!!!

I think there is nothing worse then seeing a child that goes to get there diaper bag drags it to mom gets out there wipes and diapers then takes his her pants off and diaper puts the diaper in the trash then lays down with his her feet up in the air waiting for mom to change him or her all the while with a pasafier in there mouth or a bottle but the other day I was in subway and say a woman breast feeding a child that had to be at lest 2 years old!!! she had teeth and was wearing little girl panties so.... why does mom have her boob out for the world to see? and more important why is a two with teeth that told her she was hungery with words sucking on mom?

call me crazy but I reported it to the cops! so what did they do? they told me to mind my own business that a mother could breast feed her child in public and that I should be ashame to be such a prude!!! so I stressed that the child was 2+ years old and the girl said SO?

so am I crazy to think if a child is old enough to say she is hungry and has teeth to eat with that she should eat solid food?
its like the child that basicly changes there self should be potty trained or at lest started to be potty trained!!!

of course I dont have any kids so what would I know.....

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A lot of women have a problem with "detachment issues".

They feel a close bond with the child when breastfeeding and some are afraid to give that up. It kind of goes along the lines of post partum depression.


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It's a natural thing but people do feel uncomfortable when mothers are breast feeding in public. It's akward for people.


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I think it's fine provided that the child doesn't have teeth, and the mother attempts to be discreet. I only feel akward when people are obviously being immodest about it. It's not that hard to cover up with a blanket, or if you don't have a blanket to use a change room or restroom.

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I agree! smile

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Babies Breastfeed. The more that breastfeeding in public becomes a reality, the less awkward it will make people feel. There is no "natural" reason for anyone to feel uncomforable watching a baby breastfeed, anymore than it should make people uncomfortable to watch an adult eat.


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Originally Posted By: Ava
I think it's fine provided that the child doesn't have teeth, and the mother attempts to be discreet. I only feel akward when people are obviously being immodest about it. It's not that hard to cover up with a blanket, or if you don't have a blanket to use a change room or restroom.


I'm not clear why a child having teeth has anything to do with this? Some babies start growing teeth as early as 3-4 months and some not until a year. This has nothing to do with whether it is developmentally and nutritionally appropriate to breastfeed. And you'd be surprised about a blanket... once a baby is 4 months or so, very few babies will tolerate a blanket or cover of any type. The whole point of breastfeeding advocates, is that there IS nothing immodest about breastfeeding. Restrooms are unclean and an inappropriate place to feed ANYONE, much less a baby with a developing immune system. Personally, I feel that I am as "discreet" as I can be with my infant. If someone doesn't want to see my baby breastfeed, they don't need to look. If someone wants to stare at me breastfeeding long enough that they might see the flash of a breast when the baby gets on or off, then they are the one with a problem and no manners, not me!


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One of my friends was so discreet most people would not have known she was breastfeeding - she always tried to find a quiet, private place for her benefit - she is a quiet and reserved person - but when that was not possible she always managed to feed her son discreetly - she obviously gave careful thought to her clothing - she also had a small shawl that fitted over her shoulder.
Recently I was sitting at an airport and a young woman sitting in the departure lounge breastfed her baby on and off - she was wearing a tube top and just pulled it down when she was feeding so she was naked from the neck down to the waist - with one breast totally exposed the whole time. I thought this was a bit much although I'm sure the men sitting around me thought it was a fine show. It's only the extreme examples that I notice - otherwise I'm busy doing my own thing...


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I feel fine with women nursing in public, but I do think it is important to try to be discreet. It's really easy to nurse without exposing one's whole breast. I do know one of those "over the top" nursing Moms, and people who don't blink about nursing in general are always chattering about her.


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