BellaOnline Forums Family Addictions & Children Addictions to Cyberporn

You're welcome, Hugs, for the information and links I've shared here. I hope many take the time to look into this. Being a person who believes living all of life with passion, in all its aspects, I once thought it was all relatively harmless. It's not. I know differently now. I have spent time with some truly damaged souls, given shoulder to some heart wrenching tears, cried some of them myself. The damage done is very real. We've only seen the tip of the iceberg at this point. Because of its extremely personal nature, I think you'll find most keep this addiction, more than other types of addictions, that much more swept under the rug, living in isolation with their pain.

Jenna, keep your eyes open and remain alert. Curiosity has killed more than cats. There are many filters available for home computers, but nothing beats an alert parent and a PC strategically placed in the home where the screen is visible to all, at all times.

Zee

The scariest thing about cyberspace to me is that it has served to unite pediphiles. This once extremely secretive endeavour has managed to spread itself to a worldwide Instant audience.

This was a national news story. A 12 year old home schooled girl asked for a computer. since she was a church going home schooled child her parents complied. ...to make a long story short she put alock on her door which they never questioned and then two months later ran off with some old guy who picked her up at some church outing at 6 Flags then took her some other state and the answer is yes.....he was soooo stupid he had sent her an itenerary that she had kept and naked pictures of him plus other lovely stuff(?) on her computer...he found her the first week she had her computer in a chat room...her Mom worked with my neighbor..the family had no clue, they "trusted her and did not want to invade her privacy because she had rights"......

Honestly I don't see porn being a problem all the time!Maybe for some families and relationships...but me and my boyfriend always look at porn together and even by ourseleves,but we are very open with eachother and this improves our sex life.We don't have any problems regarding porn...I am not ashamed of it either.Maybe if it was causing a problem then I would agree with most of you,but it isn't and as for my daughter,when she gets a bit older and wants to use the computer I am putting a filter on...

How to avoid pornography addiction on the Internet, here's my idears:
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1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog ,you can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.

2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov

3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.

4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.

5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you need.

6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.
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Stick with reputable sites.
If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.

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WOW
Your daughter is so young. The internet can be a good and bad place.

Well I've asked this question before..

would you recommend that to your daughter?

We have an ongoing problem with internet porn and our 15 year old son. This has been an on and off problem for about 2 years now. He suffers from Apserger's syndrome - so has what I guess would be termed an "addictive personality" anyway - at least from a psychological point of view. Add in the fact that socialization is his weakest area, and he is jut ripe for internet porn.

And we do have an extremely open relationship when it comes to talking about sex. I was date-raped at 19, so I have always tried to be very forthright with him, because I don't eer want him to do anything that could be misunderstoos, or for him to misundesrtand a situation. We've had a couple of conversations where I could feel my ears burning and it was all I could do to keep from giggling nervously, but I didn't because I want him to know he can always come to me with anything.

But even this openness didn't prevent him from being interested in porn. It started innocently enough - he enjoys Japanese Manga (started with Yu-Gi-Oh, and has matured from there). And in Americanized manga, it is done for children, but the true Japanese art is for adults - so he ran across some sites. THEN he started seeking them out after that.

My biggest concern with him, is that because of his social issues, he'll take porn to be for real - not the fantasy it really is. And quite honestly a lot of people that don't have autistim don't seem to be able to make this distinction!