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Jessica, I'm so sorry to hear that Israel lost his job. I know first hand how stressful that is. I can tell you from my experience that the way to make sure it doesn't hurt the marriage is to make sure you don't tell him what he did wrong, do help him look for jobs-I search the net for jobs while my husband writes resumes-and take time to do something completely unrelated to employment and money issues every day-both alone and together. You have to be a couple outside of the stress or you lose the teamwork. By working together, we found it strengthened us, instead of hurting us as it does so many others. Don't forget to have fun. When you need to vent, find a friend you trust completely to listen without telling anyone else and to give you courage. Good luck, and I'm sure something will come along quickly.

that's a really good point, my husband wants to change his career... and to keep him from just quitting, I looked up the right school for him, and got him enrolled in evening classes. Four more weeks and he gets his cdl upgraded. Things will be different with this job (it's a tad bit over the road) but whats important is being together. When my mother went off the deep end (literally, said she did not need me or my kids in her life) he just looked at me and said, it doesn't matter, we're a family and we do what's best for our family. It's all about remembering that you're a team now <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />