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I miss my husband after he goes for work. Do you?

I think this is something you get used to as time goes on <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I know when I was first living with my boyfriend (almost 7 years ago!) that it was really hard for us each to go off to work in the morning, since the thrill of being with each other was so new and fresh. We wanted to do absolutely everything together.

As the years went on, we still love doing things together, but now I also value having dinner just with my sister, or going out with just my best friend. In the early days I would have brought my guy along too, but now I appreciate having quiet time with these other special people, to be able to talk with them one on one. My life has more 'dimensions' that bring me joy, instead of just "him".

So for me it's the same during the day. I hug and kiss him when he and I part in the morning, but then he's at work interacting with his friends and getting a sense of "doing a good job", and I'm at my work interacting with my friends and also having that "doing a good job" feeling. So I wouldn't trade that for being able to have him sitting next to me the whole day.

The things he accomplishes during the day makes him more dimensional, and what I accomplish makes me more dimensional. So when he and I are both done with work at the end of the day, and get together, we have fun things to talk about, and fun accomplishments to share, and enjoy relaxing with each other.

So we send each other off with a smile, greet each other with warmth, but we both enjoy what we do during our time apart. We keep in touch to know when we'll be done with work, and what our evening plans are, but we don't wish we could run away from work to be together again ... we enjoy what we do for work.

My husband and I have been married for eleven years (as of May 11) and yes, I miss him when he is at work.

We kiss, hug and say, "I love you" EACH time we part, whether I am stepping out to the grocery or he is off to work. We never go to bed mad....sounds corny, I know, but we don't. We cool off and sit down and, if we cannot resolve the issue, we at least come to a compromise that allows us to go to bed friendly and get some rest.

I work (from home and for several years I worked outside the home) and my husband has a demanding job that takes him to work on 3rd shift (9pm until 7am). Being alone at night in itself is a concern, but we live in a rural area and have become quite close to what neighbors we do have.

Though we both are developing different contacts, references and interests in our "work" lives, I hear or see something that reminds me of him and he comes home with little "pretty-pretties" several times a week. A flower he saw outside his window, a trinket from the convenience store where he stopped to get gas. It seems we are both thinking of the other a great deal of our time apart and that is comforting.

Now, we have embarked on a new mission. We are attending classes to become a certified foster family in our state and my husband is near to retirement age. So, our goal is to begin a foster family and have our roles switch a bit. He will stay home and work with the children while I work in my (home) office. This means we will be together pretty much 24/7 - we have spent this time together before and we look forward to reaching that goal and doing it again!!!!

Kiss him, hug him, think of him and let him know it!!! I bet he does the same. <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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