"Forgiveness is a mystical act, not a reasonable one." ~ Caroline Myss
I used to believe that forgiveness meant "condoning" a harmful act. But forgiveness is the act that frees us (not them). Forgiveness does NOT mean what they did was okay (not in any way).
Forgiveness frees us because as long as we hold a grudge or resentment, or blame another person for the terrible thing they did to us, we can never experience our own light.
And it feels terrible to not experience our Light.