My husband and myself have custody of my step children...i have been a part of their life since they were 6 and 1 year and they are now 15 and 9! I have a great relationship with the children but since they moved in with us about 2 yeara ago i have taken on ALL of the daily reaponsibilitiea of a mother...but the oldest never gives me any credit...i work my butt off while her mom does nothing and the mom still gets pictures posted and the "spotlight". Is the common? I love these kids ..it just hurts sometimes and makes me feel invisible.