Bringmeredwine -- no wonder you call yourself Bring Me Red Wine! :-) It's terrible how money affects families, how greed and pain can tear us apart.

I'm sorry I haven't experienced this situation. I was drawn to this thread by Debbie, because I facilitate support groups for people coping with loss. I think support groups are the best way to get support and understanding from people who have experienced the same things. Of course, I know it's not easy to find a support group that focuses on grief or family breakups -- which is why online forums are so helpful!

I just wanted to say my heart goes out to you, and I'm sorry for your losses.