Okay, I get it now! I just wanted to say that when my ex husband died last June, I was devastated. He died very young and unexpectedly. I still loved him so much, even though I had ended our 23 year marriage 4 years previously. I always thought he'd still be in my life, as a friend who knew me better than any body, and as the father of our 2 grown children. Upon his death, I was not WELCOME at his funeral by HIS family, even though I paid for it and made all the arrangements. It was such an awful, awkward situation. If it wasn't for all the loving support from my dear friends, I would have ended up in the psyche hospital. Unbeknownst to me at this time, he had left me all his benefits-the whole nine yards. My darling children and his family went mental when they learned this, and made me feel worse than I already did. I was hounded until I gave a substantial amount to both children. I was so horribly shocked at their attitude toward me. They absolutely destroyed me emotionally. I no longer communicate with them and consider myself childless. I know their father would have been appalled. Has any one else ever experienced a situation like this?