Well, Nancy, you're going through a lot right now in your waking life in regards to your family challenges. Your first dreams seems to indicate that your mother is feeling a bit stifled. Also, perhaps both of you feel that things "aren't what they used to be" so you'd like to start over with hopeful feelings about home and family.
Your second dream is all about your feelings of privacy and self-protection. In some ways, Nancy, you're fighting for your own emotional survival. You're developing aspects within yourself that will be able to protect you someday but at this current time, you're unable to do so because you are still young in development.
Because of your other posts, I can deduce that this refers to your developing spirituality and self-understanding.