You all are so right-on. I call people that cast such judgements, "simps". Without ever having known the foggiest idea of our dilemma they speak with such superfluous ignorant verbal diarrhea. In my life I have been through utter puss bucket HELL. All that to say this; I did come out of it. It took patience and a whole lot of time and hurt but I had to eventually come away from the fear of healing. We don't need sympathy. We need some strong friends that have been through it and survived. Peace to you guys. dave