When my younger girl was in her teens every day was a fight. She made a lot of bad choices (just like me...it is hard to watch your children make the same mistakes as you) and for a long time we didn't have a relationship. We have been working on it for the last few years and are really close now. She lives very far away and I am lucky if I get to see her twice a year. I am flying out to see her again in February (I think). Maybe it is that you and your daughter are so much alike. Sometimes it is good to take a break.