Thank you for your reply. I appreciate what you said and believe he is worth the struggle(at times). I am new to this and have to understand he is as well, and so is his ex. I feel better now that I have talked w/ him about it. He is the type of guy who always makes the peace, does not rock the boat, stir the pot, and makes everyone else happy first and puts himself last....that's partly why I love him so much. I just hate seeing her take advantage of that....as I'm sure she always had. I need to learn and let things go and I do believe it will be an ever changing learning experience for me. I love him and his boys enough to roll with the punches.
Thanks again for the advice.