Yes, we all have different mental maps. And we all think ours are the right ones. lol
I guess we should celebrate that we all communicate as well as we do, when we are at our best.
In most of life, we tend to self-select our companions for those with mental maps like our own? To me, it's like a menu. If I like most things on the menu, I will eat at the restaurant. Those people with the most menu stuff I like can become close friends.
The menu that only has one thing i like on it might be like a certain kind of friend - like a tennis buddy kind of thing.
Along these lines, I am not going to be looking for friends who "do not complain" as such. But I will also try to steer clear of energy-sucking conversations in general.