Suidpup,

I do not know you and probably we will never meet, but if you can afford a personal shopper in Milan - could you afford a live in nanny? If not - consider taking in a college student as a boarder - free room and board in exchange for being a child rearer.

Get out there and make that $80k back and hire a live in. Perhaps that will give you the time to be you to enjoy your children.