Thanks for joining the forum and posting about your family. That is a lot of moving around in a few short years, how did you decide where to go and how have your children adapted to these changes?
Personally I have never associated desperation with my family life or kids, pretty much just accepted the diagnosis and live our lives to the best we can.
I think some therapists are more pushy about my son ever talking than I am. It helps if you grew up with a sibling who is handicapped like I did and puts it all into perspective.
Welcome to the forum - there are lots of threads here you can chime in on based on your experiences. What grade is your 11 year old in, is he fully included? My son turns 12 in March.