My point of view is that sex is important because it 'was important' to begin with. Couples so frequently grow apart, and it's often sex which can be conveniently scapegoated as the reason, although I feel that a depreciated sex life is more of a symptom than a cause. When couples complain (individually or together) that their sex life is not good enough, it is at least a sign that they still care - that they want what they had (those initial feelings of being in love) back. If they can identify that that's what they're saying and communicate with one another, then I feel that they can renew their love , even if it has to be different, because life does throw experiences our way, and to try to deny them would be silly.
just my thoughts <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> - Jane
