The Bible says your child is valid, your relationship is fornication. Sorry, God is very clear on that. All sex outside of marriage is sin. Fornication. It is a general term that means sexual immorality. The love you feel is valid. Love is permitted between anyone. Sex is restricted to marriage. God sees the two as seperate. People do too. They have sex with people they don't love all the time. It isn't love that justifies a relationship. It is God. God says we must love Him first, above and beyond any person. Not following His commandments is not loving Him. It is rebellion to Him. No marriage has anything to do with religion. It has to do with God. Big difference.