Ok, so I've lived, faithfully, with the same man for 17 years. We have a child. We are a close knit family. Is that somehow less valid? The love we share and the normal relationship struggles that we have overcome do not appear to me to be diminished by the fact that we choose not to marry. And many marriages are, these days, just civil ceremonies, and nothing to do with religion.
best wishes - Jane <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />