you ladies are too good, you need to explore services for your kids...search the net for the state you live in...take a relative who isn't perfect as a sitter, as long as they dont kill the kid it will be Ok, & GET OUT! get some relief..I used to be in the same situation, housebound & a mess emotionally!!! When my older son was young & not talking my ex hubby & parents all pulled the same [censored] about him not talking & delayed me from getting help! O, my do I empathize..there is a light at the end of a tunnel....