BellaOnline Forums Relationships Bereavement Does Bereavement Ever Go Away?

There are some things, especially when it comes to the Spirituality and/or emotional growth of our being that can often become misinterpreted.

Pain, and the loss of a loved one - especially when they're loved intimately, from my experience is more of a transformation than something a Soul needs or might even want or feel responsible to be rid of.

Me personally, I have a saying:

"I like my pain STRAIGHT-UP, not on the side!"

I've never had a loss, as of yet, that hasn't had a side to it that had me grow in on direction or another. However, that doesn't mean at the time I didn't have a few explicit words w/the works of our Creator...

I will share a story every now and then in which loss, especially, was more of a "seed" that grew into something much bigger, stronger and grounded, than had I not had the experience of having to go through it.

Have you had an experience you'd like to share where loss of a loved one transformed, even if it took days, months, or years to present a renewal of sorts; an unexpected positive?

Elleise.......I am not sure that bereavement does completely go away in all cases, probably not in many. I think it depends on the nature and the depth of the relationship to begin with. I know in my heart that I will forever miss my loved one, at least a little bit, for as long as we exist in different realms.

I agree that the loss of a loved one, especially the loss of a deeply loved intimate partner, can and will bring about change and transformation. I don't see how it couldn't. After the deep despair passes, and there certainly is that, there is so much to think about and learn from.

In my case it has been over two years since my intimate partner passed on, and I feel like I am still transforming from the grief into something else, perhaps my true self for once in my life. Because of the loss I have a deeper sense of love, caring, and acceptance. That goes for how I feel towards others as well as how I feel towards myself. I have more defined priorities than I ever had, and the material world holds less value to me now. I have grown spiritually by leaps and bounds, having to out of necessity, if nothing else. I have had a lot of time to review my life and the value of my partner's life.

I am forever changed. It is hard to explain but I can say that I am far more sensitive to the pain of others, and far more sensitive in general to just about everything else that comes into my space. Being alone has allowed me time to go within myself to understand who I am and my purpose for being here. In order to survive I have had to assess every aspect of my life. I think I am a better person for having gone through this event, but some days it is still hard to deal with, I won't lie. The healing, growing, and transforming continues on with each passing day.

I don't remember what I wrote, but just reading the thread Title:

In short, bereavement, I would have to say doesn't go away per se, but transforms.

From there, that transformation is a bit like a seed waiting to grow

It's been 2 years and 9 months since I lost my sweetheart. Although I don't cry every day anymore like I used to, he is still in my thoughts quite often. There are still moments when the loss feels as sharp and hot as when he first left here, and I cry until I can't anymore. Sometimes I talk myself down from the emotional upheaval to calm myself and to get myself back together. I know for me the bereavement goes on. I have put a wall up so I don't see it all the time, but the pain remains.