My future MIL--At It Again - 10/29/07 01:42 PM
Hello all, I have posted before regarding my future MIL.
She wants grandchildren and is simply not afraid to let her two children (one being my SO, one being his older sis) know this.
Problem is, Older Sis does not appear to want children. Her Darling Little Boy has now chosen a woman (ME! yay!) that definitely does not want kids, either. I love 'em--my friends' kids are AWESOME, really--but I simply have no desire for my own, and as we ALL know, there is NOTHING wrong with that.
I told my SO-either you tell her to cut it out or I will--and so to preserve the peace and good relationship we've all developed, he advised his mom gently that I do not want children and that her comments were beginning to make me uncomfortable. It seemed to work, until she was looking through photographs that I have of my friend's baby this weekend. It was as if nothing was ever said, and she was spewing about grandkids again. His older sister seems to be used to it an unaffected, but I'm mildly annoyed, at best. I like this woman and would be pleased to have her as my MIL--she is sweet, cultured, enjoys sharing recipes with me and shopping, etc.--everything I've missed doing with my mom, who died when I was 20. I would hate to have our relationship end in a screaming match about this topic, but it's clearly my decision and she should be keeping her comments to herself. I have considered approaching his sister about this (we have a good relationship, too) and flat out asking her if she is as uncomfortable as me, or if she maybe does intend to have kids and just feels the topic is PRIVATE, as I do. Of course, that means I'm then invading her privacy. I have to spend a week at Thanksgiving with everyone, so I'd prefer to enjoy my vacation rather then defend the onslaught of baby talk. I just don't know what to do now, as the obvious solution of having my SO talk to his mom has already been done to no avail...
Help!
She wants grandchildren and is simply not afraid to let her two children (one being my SO, one being his older sis) know this.
Problem is, Older Sis does not appear to want children. Her Darling Little Boy has now chosen a woman (ME! yay!) that definitely does not want kids, either. I love 'em--my friends' kids are AWESOME, really--but I simply have no desire for my own, and as we ALL know, there is NOTHING wrong with that.
I told my SO-either you tell her to cut it out or I will--and so to preserve the peace and good relationship we've all developed, he advised his mom gently that I do not want children and that her comments were beginning to make me uncomfortable. It seemed to work, until she was looking through photographs that I have of my friend's baby this weekend. It was as if nothing was ever said, and she was spewing about grandkids again. His older sister seems to be used to it an unaffected, but I'm mildly annoyed, at best. I like this woman and would be pleased to have her as my MIL--she is sweet, cultured, enjoys sharing recipes with me and shopping, etc.--everything I've missed doing with my mom, who died when I was 20. I would hate to have our relationship end in a screaming match about this topic, but it's clearly my decision and she should be keeping her comments to herself. I have considered approaching his sister about this (we have a good relationship, too) and flat out asking her if she is as uncomfortable as me, or if she maybe does intend to have kids and just feels the topic is PRIVATE, as I do. Of course, that means I'm then invading her privacy. I have to spend a week at Thanksgiving with everyone, so I'd prefer to enjoy my vacation rather then defend the onslaught of baby talk. I just don't know what to do now, as the obvious solution of having my SO talk to his mom has already been done to no avail...
Help!