[color:#000099][/color]I'm 41, and when I was a kid my parents would occasionally go on vacations by themselves (my brother & I would stay with my grandparents). And the only kind of family vacations we took were within driving distance and usually involved the beach. On most Saturday nights, my parents would hire a babysitter and go out to dinner or a movie. If my parents hosted party, my brother & I would come out to say hello to the adults, and then go play quietly in a different room - no one brought their kids to adult parties they way they do now. None of this seemed odd to me at the time, since that is what most of my friends' parents did. Now it seems like people my age & younger who have kids act like it's child abuse to not include their children in everything they do - even if doing kid-unfriendly activities with kids is miserable for everyone (parents, kids and innocent bystanders). I think my parents had the right idea. They allowed themselves some kid-free time, and somehow my brother & I turned out just fine without being with them 24 hours a day.
GreenBlue,
When I read this it felt like I was writing it!
I'm the same age as you, also have one brother and your description could me MY childhood! So why do our friends, who grew up the same way we did, do not raise their children as they were raised?
I was at a wedding this weekend (it was a second marriage: she already has 1 child, he has 2, and together they recently had a baby).
When we got to the church, my DH and I could not believe the number of children and babies! The maid of honour came down the aisle holding her baby; one pregnant mom (with her 4th) carried one of her babies as she read one of the readings -- there were as many children as adults (when I was a child, my parents never took us to weddings or funerals. I attended my first wedding when I was 16).
I anticipated a horrible evening of gritting my teeth and pretending to have fun, but thankfully the dinner/celebration at the club was very well organized: the under 10 were taken to a separate room with a sitter, activities, etc. same for the over 10, and at 9:15pm a limo was made available to bring the children back to their sitter/grandparents, etc.
The bride came up to us after and asked: "I hope you didn't mind having all these children around?"
How could we when it was so well organized and respectful of others?!
In these child-centric/obnoxious self-absorbed parent times we live in, it is refreshing to see that there are still people who are consciously aware.
PG