Don't Want Nieces To Turn Out Like Me... - 05/11/09 04:51 PM
Hi!
Haven't been here in a while...
Anyway, to start out the story, I have had the whole spectrum of Eating Disorders for about 16 years, mostly Anorexia Nervosa. Thanks to residential treatment, I am at a normal weight now, but still struggle with eating. I have basically the same thing every day, won't have certain things, make "special" meals only for myself, etc. but I am years and years better than I was before treatment.
To make a long story short, I now have two nieces, ages one-and-a-half, and almost 4. It's really the four year old that I am concerned about. She may seem young, but is smart and picks up on what her Auntie does. It's terribly apparent. A few times, while eating with her someone would ask why she didn't finish her food and she would say "Aunt Sunshine didn't finish her food"... I would usually try and finish it with her b/c I felt so bad.
She often tells me she is not pretty. She's a gorgeous child, and so is her sister! And they're both so smart! How can I make it so that they don't turn out like me? I know, I try not to have "behaviors" around them and whatnot, but it's hard...
Bjork
Haven't been here in a while...
Anyway, to start out the story, I have had the whole spectrum of Eating Disorders for about 16 years, mostly Anorexia Nervosa. Thanks to residential treatment, I am at a normal weight now, but still struggle with eating. I have basically the same thing every day, won't have certain things, make "special" meals only for myself, etc. but I am years and years better than I was before treatment.
To make a long story short, I now have two nieces, ages one-and-a-half, and almost 4. It's really the four year old that I am concerned about. She may seem young, but is smart and picks up on what her Auntie does. It's terribly apparent. A few times, while eating with her someone would ask why she didn't finish her food and she would say "Aunt Sunshine didn't finish her food"... I would usually try and finish it with her b/c I felt so bad.
She often tells me she is not pretty. She's a gorgeous child, and so is her sister! And they're both so smart! How can I make it so that they don't turn out like me? I know, I try not to have "behaviors" around them and whatnot, but it's hard...
Bjork