First of all, let's identify the sin. According to the Bible, your sin is fornication.
No, it isn't, and masturbation is not a sin, as you define it.
I know that we generally define fornication as sex before marriage (with another person) but fornication means so much more.
You are interpreting this according to your own prejudices, and you are far from correct in this.
Let's do a brief word study of fornication.
Correction:
let's do a factual and accurate study of the word....
I love word studies it's where we go to the original language in which the Scripture we are studying was written (OT- Hebrew; NT Greek), look at the genre of the text (poetry, narrative, letter, etc.), the context, the content, and the culture to understand the author's intent of his writing
Given the age of the original document, and the number of times it has been interpreted, it's hardly surprising this has become distorted and mistranslated to suit the numerous authors' personal views....
(not what the Word means to "me" but what God is saying through the author to communicate to the reader).
Or how the reader chooses to interpret the meaning in order to enable it to conform with their own belief and conditioning....
And, of course this will only whet your appetite and hopefully inspire you to continue to inductively study the Word on your own for this issue and everything else.
I hope so too...in an open-minded, unbiased, unprejudiced, uninhibited manner.....
The Greek word porneia (which is translated fornication [4202] is an umbrella term for many sexual sins such as: adultery, harlotry, incest, pedophilia, bestiality, or any other sexual restriction that God has placed for mankind to observe. Quite simply, sex and the feelings that go along with sexual stimulation are reserved only for Biblical marriage (Hebrews 13:4, I Corinthians 7:2-4).
I think it would be extremely beneficial to the OP to broaden her research and view
this link too.... and all sub-links therein mentioned.
The link provides an extremely well-rounded, unbiased and scholarly point of view.
This post could easily end up being pages in length, but I am not going to do that. I want you to hear God's voice for yourself in reference to this issue. Here are some Scripture on sexual sin (sexual sin being anything that has to do with lust of the mind and body, defilement of the marital bed, or anything that has to with the sexual organ(s) for the purpose of pleasure seeking).
This is your interpretation. This is not factually accurate, and is a biased opinion which is not necessarily a true interpretation of what you feel sexual sin, is.
Fornication is found 32 times in the New Testament. I will select a few to help you get started in your study: Matthew 5:32;
this speaks of the man treating his wife like a useless piece of property to be discarded at whim.
it has nothing to do with masturbation.
The passage in question:
"Romans 1
29 They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, 31 foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32 Though they know God's decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them".
There is no mention made of fornication, let alone masturbation. This again, is your free interpretation of what you think the OP is doing wrong, but you are really completely awry with your supposition...
The biblical quotation you cite reads as follows:
1 Corinthians 5
Expel the Immoral Brother!
1It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that does not occur even among pagans: A man has his father's wife.Again, what point are you making, exactly? What has this to do with the OP's concern about masturbation?
"1 Corinthians 6:18
18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body."]
This is so broadly open to interpretation, it could mean anything. Again, you are airing your own prejudices against masturbation, without any credible foundation at all.
"Ephesians 5:3
3But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people."What is immoral or impure about masturbation?
There is nothing here to indicate that this is the sin in question, or that it is even a sin.
To make people believe that masturbation is wrong and sinful, has done more over the centuries to suppress natural sexuality and wholesome appreciation of our own bodies, than anything else.
To lead people to believe that such forms of sexual gratification are wrong, is misguided, damaging, destructive and prejudiced in the extreme.
there is nothing wrong with masturbation. in and of itself.
I am happy to hear that you are at least thinking about changing your living situation. I could be wrong, but I hear some possible control issues with your boyfriend and the beginning of idolatry (I Corinthians 6:13).
"Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall bring to nought both it and them. But the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body"This is just ridiculous. This implies that all sex should be dispensed with, and the body given up for God's use only.
What rubbish....
The advice you have given is blinkered and ultimately damaging, in that it simply enforces the OPs impression that she is committing a sin by masturbating.
Her only issue is with repeated and habitual masturbation which is becoming an obsession.
But she is not wrong to masturbate, and neither is she wrong to enjoy it.
Enjoyment of one's body, an appreciation of what an extraordinary mechanism it is, and what pleasure we can both give with it and derive from it, is not a sin.
There is no guilt to be had, no shame to be felt.
I agree, that her BF should not have pressured her into masturbation for his own gratification. I would be more concerned with his attitude to her dignity and self-worth, than I am with her feelings of guilt - which are unfounded and unnecessary.
He is exacerbating the problem.
But he opened her mind to the enjoyment of sex and self-stimulation, and that is not a bad thing.
The Guilt, is the problem here - and she should not be feeling guilty for enjoying her body and the associated feelings she engenders.
To tell her she is being sinful will render her self-conscious, and inhibit her feelings, to the point of frigidity, if this does not cease, and become more balanced.
The answers you have given her, are not from God's point of view. They are yours, and are loaded with bias, prejudice and inhibited and suppressed instinct.
It would be best, iamabeliever, to gain several different points of view, and see whether on the whole people are more open than this.
because this is just one opinion. And I strongly disagree with it.
Inncidentally, I've posted reference to this post both on facebook, and twitter. so I trust you will let it remain and not delete it....