Thank you Francine; that article flowed really easily and made me think I might do more on poems that speak to me - Anthem for Doomed Youth, The Hollow Men, Robert Louis Stevenson's A Childs Garden of Verses, Thomas Hardy's Neutral Tones - I think I'll soon have a have a long list!
I like your father's response about the poem, after all famous women writers including the Brontes and George Eliot used mens names because they felt they would be more likelty to be taken seriously than if it was known they were women...