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We all have dreams. There is this thing called fear that kills our dreams even before they come alive. I spend my life fearing for the worst, fear has stopped me living my life to the fullest. Can I please get tips on how to get over my fears.

Hi Andiswa,

You asked for tips on how to get over your fears. One thing to remember is that fear builds character, teaching you how to act with courage. So one tip is to see fear as an opportunity.

Use it as a tool to help you identify and solve problems, or as a warning that something needs attention. Just as an example, if you fear a forthcoming event, ensure you get fully prepared for it, and so on. Hope that helps.

Joy

Thank you for this tip! I will keep it in mind.

I’m headed down a new path where I will have to conduct group workshops. Even though I will not be entrusted to conduct these workshops until I am fully trained, still I’m nervous about one day having to do this, but as you said, it will be an opportunity for me to practice courage. Instead of focusing on the fear, I will focus on the courage.

Hi Leah, many thanks for your feedback. All the best with those group workshops! Joy

I think a lot of it depends on what your fear is. Sometimes fear is good because it keeps us from doing stupid, dangerous stuff. Sometimes fear is our inner voice telling us that a path might not be right for you. Is it a dream you really want or a dream other people want for you? People sometimes encourage me to get a "better" job. But the things they nudge me toward are jobs that are more stressful and would give me more less free time. But sometimes fear does stop us from doing things we are capable of and really do want to do. Having confidence in your abilities helps overcome fear. Practice and go over things till you feel you are good at it. On the other hand, do not expect yourself to be perfect or compair yourself with people who have been doing it much longer than you. Freeing yourself from unrealistic expectations helps. It also reduces fear to have a back up plan. If there is a risk involved (other than just embaressing yourself) is there something you can do to reduce the risk.

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