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#374189 - 02/10/08 03:29 AM Getting Married Young - great idea or not so great
BellaShorts Offline

Registered: 10/26/07
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There are some who think that getting hitched in their late teens was the worst thing they ever did - others swear by a long and happy marriage, kids, secure married life etc. - but what are the pros and cons?
What should we advise our lovestruck teens, particularly as we approach St Valentine's Day?

Doris Lessing's Short Story Flight explores some of the advantages/dangers. What do you think?

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Edited by inspirangel one (02/10/08 03:35 AM)

#375124 - 02/12/08 06:30 PM Re: Getting Married Young - great idea or not so great [Re: BellaShorts]
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Registered: 11/18/07
Posts: 272
Loc: VA
I was married about a year after college, which was the perfect time for both my husband and I. We couldn't have gotten married earlier, we both had school and things we needed to finish for ourselves. It's not a matter of just meeting the right person, it's a matter of not really knowing who you are in your teens. Most teens think they have themselves all figured out, but people change a lot in just their 20s alone.

My parent's got married when they were 19 and 21 though, both went on to finish college and are very happy together.

My in-laws met in highschool, they dated until after college then they got married. They're both very happy together as well.

I don't see the point in not waiting, until your early 20s or after college. If it's true love, it can wait years without being lost. The relationship will most likely be even stronger than it was before if it's something tangible and secure. Marriage should be 100% positive. Teens might think they're 100% positive, and Romeo and Juliet is a wonderful story, it's just not very practical.

That's just my opinion though.

I enjoyed your description of Doris Lessing's "Flight." smile

Charity Armstrong
Roses Editor

#376665 - 02/18/08 03:18 AM Re: Getting Married Young - great idea or not so great [Re: Charity - Roses]
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It worked out just right for you then Charity, and for many others I'm sure.

Family-wise, when my children were born there was a kind of optimum time recommended for having your first child........ I thought it was kind of funny...... apparently the optimum time is between ages 18 - 29 !

A friend of mine got married a bit later and was told on the conception of her first child, that the technical medical term for her was 'elderly primagravida' ....... she went weak at the knees at the phrase (she was 30 !)

#916748 - 01/01/17 05:45 PM Re: Getting Married Young - great idea or not so great [Re: BellaShorts]
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It depends. If you truly know your partner plus both are in love and compatible then age does not matter.

The main issue with people getting divorced is that they do not plan the marriage they only plan the wedding. This is why the first date everything should be talked about; our past, what we want for the future, religion, everything even our tastes (music + food + everything) so like that we can see the compability then time should be spent for dating and if all goes well living together then if all is still well then get married if that is something you both want.


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