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I need to share this with all of you because I just can't take it anymore.

Hypocrites. I meet and know this kind of people everyday. From my family, to the friends I still know, to the strangers I briefly see. I know hypocrisy when I see it because I sometimes am a hypocrite. I admit that I do have my bad moments and I can't help it if I'm a hypocrite since I'm just a person who makes mistakes.

The one thing I hate being a hypocrite is that I say things that I usually just say right now. I don't know why but lying about my virtues or just pretending to be a better person, makes me feel good about myself.

Anyway, a relative of mine is being a hypocrite. If there is an outsider, s/he would act all good and respectful to them. Showering them with a saint-like behavior that I admit is convincing enough for not to let them notice that under the facade is an ugly, fake human monster.

I know what having a side that you hide for others not to see but this relative of mine, let's call him/her- C.H., is really getting on my nerves.

When in front of close relatives, s/he would give them all his/her best but when they leave, s/he would insult and degrade them. I effing hate it.

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***Got any relative that acts like a two-way mirror whenever there's people around? What do you think? Share your thoughts... and let me know below.

I try to be the better person but this has been going on way too long.

This relative of mine is such a pain in my butt. It must be the hot weather that must be the reason on why s/he keeps on going on and on about my faults when s/he doesn't see his/her self.

I don't expect a reply but I just want to let this out or I'll scream.
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Styxx
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Why do you think it must be the weather that makes that person do that to you? If you did nothing to that person then there are no good reason that he or she is doing that!

I'm not sure that I would use the 'hypocrite' term in this situation. Society trains every single human being to act a certain way around other human beings. Think of the way a typical person would act with their own family, and then imagine that person meets someone they look up to as an incredibly powerful role model. Maybe a famous actress or a member of royalty. The way that same person would act in front of that person would be different. That isn't about being a hypocrite. It's about how we are trained by our society to behave.

Most of us are trained that we need to present a certain type of behavior in front of certain people. Usually we are trained to do that with a combination of rewards for doing it right and penalties when we do it wrong. Over time our behavior is honed just like any dog training exercise.

And, similarly, we are trained by different people to do different things. It could be we are rewarded for being quiet and obsequious with one group of people. And then we are rewarded for being snarky and gossipy with other groups of people. But really, if we weren't being rewarded, we would stop doing an action.

Imagine a person is gossipy in certain circumstances. Now imagine every time they started doing that, everyone in the room left. They would stop doing it. They would be trained out of it. The only reason the behavior continues is that people allow it to.

The environment we live in is of our own creation. We need to take ownership of that. There are thousands of books on the topic, on how to change an environment if you wish. If we wallow in a situation, we have to take responsibility for that.